Help! I am trying to potty train my 2 year old and she is so hard headed.?

Question

I have tried a potty box with prizes in it. I have tried stickers. I have tried spanking her rinsing her in the shower when she goes in her pants. I have also made her sit on the toliet for thrity minutes on/off. Nothing seems to work. Any tips?

Answer 1

Yes RELAX! She will do it naturally when she's ready.  Never rush or force a child to potty train it will only pro-long.  I give my children a tiny square of chocolate everytime they use the potty and two smaller pieces of chocolate when they do a poo.  When they wet their pants I don't tell them off I just deal with it. It will happen. Also I found that they have to be weeing on the potty for a good few weeks before we go to the next step of wearing pants. Even then I don't go outside with them for a while with out a nappy.  This way it's less stress and less accidents which equals happy mum and happy toddler.

Good luck don't rush it. Even when people say 'oh still in nappies my daughter was potty trained from 3 months old' or something silly like that. lol

Answer 2

You are spanking your daughter for doing something that isn't natural to her?  Poor child.  You're lucky she can't dial CPS.  It is PAINFULLY Obvious that she isn't ready to be potty trained and yet you continue to torture this poor child.  YOU are the one who puts underpants on her and YOU are blaming HER because she isn't ready for them and to top it off you're hitting her because she isn't ready.  She is a Small child, not a mineature adult...Her body and mind aren't going to grow according to YOUR schedule.  She is going to grow and devlop according to nature...I suggest MOM gets some parenting skills.

Answer 3

She's not ready yet.  Don't turn this into a battle of wills between you and your daughter.  Wait until SHE shows interest in the potty, then training her will be easy.  Most children are not trained yet at age 2.  Give her a few more months, and you will probably find this whole process so much easier!

Answer 4

Eek....I don't think your daughter is being hard headed! You need to back off before you scare her to death and get serious toilet issues (like refusing to go at all for days).

I started toilet training at 13mths but started out very slow, putting her on after sleep and naps (when a wee is almost guranteed) teaching her the words she needed to tell me and teaching her what a toilet is all about. If she didn't want to go some days then that was ok, if she preferred her nappy instead. It took 10mths but we got there and from 22mths she has been 100% accident and nappy free.

I tried stickers but she got bored rather quickly. I have found the biggest reward they can get is YOUR delight and approval. Making a huge fuss, clapping etc when they go is the key! You should never punish an accident, just say in a low voice 'oh dear, now your knickers are all wet. What a shame' or something like that, then clean up and forget it.

Of you want her to sit on the toilet for 10mins (30 is pushing it) look at a book together, give her a drawing pad, anything to make it less boring and more relaxing.

Answer 5

Give her time, while still helping her along. She will do it when she is ready. Until a child's brain can control those muscles, she wont go. If you whip her and scold her it will be traumatizing and it will make her more nervous than anything. use pull ups.

Answer 6

Wait until she's ready.  PLEASE tell me ou are joking when you say that you spanking her for not using the potty, or forcing her to sit on the potty for half an hour.

  Most 2 year olds are NOT potty trained, and if treats/bribes aren't working, it means that she isn't ready.

When kids are ready, potty training usually goes very quickly. (A few days to a couple of weeks.)  When they aren't ready you can work at it for months -- years even, and end up with a frustrated, upset parent, and a frustrated, upset child who is still in diapers.

Forget about it for a while.  Put her back in diapers and wait until SHE expresses interest, wants to wear underwear, and has some control.

Answer 7

Has she gone in the potty at all yet? If not, you need to be patient and keep encouraging her. Making it an ordeal with the threat of spankings, etc, will make it impossible for her to ever relax enough to go.

Answer 8

Oh my god - don't spank her.  Is this your first child? Please say yes, because an experienced mom in this area would not do that.  No wonder she's "hard headed".  Read this next sentence carefully:  She is not ready.  Now read my advice carefully:  When my first daughter turned 2 I had trouble potty-training her.  I tried everything (except discipline.)  Finally, I decided to wait a few more weeks - still nothing.  Waited a few more weeks - better but still not consistent.  It wasn't until she turned 3 that she became more interested in using the potty.  I was so frustrated in the beginning, that I went to the library to find books about it.  Your child is in control here.  She will do it when she is ready - she can not be forced.  My daughter tended to do a little better when I left her alone on the potty.  Even though all my friends kids and other kids I encountered who were the same age as my daughter were all potty-trained, you have to remember that your child is different than all those other kids.   Maybe they trained "early" and still wet their bed at night, who knows.  My youngest is 2 1/2 and she is not interested at all in the potty.  She'll sit on it and I'll read her the potty book, but still nothing.  I don't get mad, I don't spank her.  I know that she is not ready and that she will be soon.

Answer 9

I just got the Potty Training talk from my ped, but my 2 year old has shown NO signs of being ready to start, so I don't even own a potty. I know it seems like all other toddlers are potty trained at 12 months, and it can be hard to be the only mom at the playdate with out a "pee pee in the potty" story, but if you try before they're ready, it makes it longer. Try completely stopping potty training for a few months and coming back to it. The important thing is to stay calm. And yeah, spanking will make it take much longer.

Answer 10

Wait until SHE indicates she is ready. Our 26 month odl son just had THE potty training moment last week. Just offer the potty, make a huge fuss abotu it when she does use it. No punishment, NOTHIGN if she doesn't, no big deals either, no dissapointment from you. Knowing it is there and you are pleased when she decides to use it will be her biggest motivation. My son hadnt had any interest in a few dasy but suddenly came TEARING through the house one evening, sat on his potty, peed, and has been going mostly since then.