Help!!!! I don't know what to do with my fiance'?

Question

He told me that whatever I want I will get with the wedding. But I can't get any input from him what so ever. First off I have two places picked out for the wedding but can't make up my mind. It is so stressful he just states the pros and cons to both places without saying which one he would prefer.. He just says whatever you want hunni. Next is the flowers..music...food.. guest list. He is in the music industry and has named off over 100 names to invite...that has been the only input on the whole thing..When I tell him that I want to know what he thinks he just says that he wants to stay out of it so he can't mess up my perfect day.... I don't know how the heck to get him more interested in this. Help please

Answer 1

He sounds like any groom to be.  My fiance listens to me and says pros and cons but isn't nearly as involved as I am or doing hardly anything for the wedding planning.  I am happy with the input and support that he does give.  This seems to be the way things go.  Listen to his pros and cons and then make a decision.  You don't really even have to bring him along.

Answer 2

I did the same thing for my wife. I didn't want to have any input other than where I had to. It was her day, and yes, we don't want to ruin it. Pick what you think is best and then everything will go just fine, really, just stop stressing about it. I am sure he is just happy to get to marry the perfect woman and could do it in the back of a bar if that is what you picked.  

Answer 3

There isn't much you can do.  Welcome to wedding planning.  Generally the guy backs off so he doesn't have to make those choices.  the best way is to ask him not what he wants but what he really wants there (certain songs, alcohol or attire)and what he insists on not having (wearing pink, certain songs, certain dances).  Then you do the rest with the moms and your friends.

Answer 4

Men don't usually get involved in wedding stuff. I was upset with my husband for not giving input or going to pick things out but he still refused to give his opinions so I just got my sister and friends opinions and once the wedding came and was over, I was over being mad and trying to get him involved. /So basically, planning a wedding is stressful enough, so just get some girl friend and get there idea's on things. Good luck!

Answer 5

My fiance does not care about most of the details of our wedding. I mean, he cares, but not like I do.  I ask his opinion about it all, but I do not hammer him. Guys generally know this is a woman's domain and don't get into the details and fluff like we do. I have found that if I don't bombard him with all the little details he processes it better. He does not care if we have vendela or sahara roses or gold damask linens or plum. whatever.

Plan your day and enjoy .I personally cannot wait to see my fiance's face when he walks in and sees all my hard work come to life.

Cut him some slack. Remember he is a guy...be thankful he is allowing you to do it however you want it to be.

Answer 6

You are trying to get him involved in planning your special day, and I don't blame you. But if he continuously isn't very helpful, i would stop asking and make decisions on your own, or with your bridesmaids or parents. Always tell him what you decided, and see if he has any input then. Or you could ask him "Do you want any input on flowers?" If he says no, pick the flowers. If he has a problem with the flowers later, you can remind him that you asked him if he wanted input, and he said no, so you did what you wanted.  

Answer 7

isnt all that what the maids of honor are for??? lol. Its your day and juust think...what if he doesnt like either choice...it only complicates things. You at the altar and the guests are the most important aspects of the wedding.