Help? I don't want my mum to sell our horse :(?

Question

I'm going to college in september, and my mum doesn't get on with the horse we are sharing. He is 6 years old, and she does not want to be alone riding him whilst i'm at college 4 days a week, as he still needs allot of training, and rears/spooks allot. I don't need advice on his training as it's going well and his improved so much since we got him, but my mum is thinking of selling him to get herself a dressage horse. Whilst i want one i can event :( and i think the horse we have now is ideal once his had some more time training.

How do i stop her from selling him? All her friends keep telling her his too much of a hand full to keep just for a hobby. But i want to take him round the cross country course at college and keep him busy. Just i can't keep him there, because all though i'm doing horse management, if you keep your horse there they have to go on the riding lessons too, and i don't want him to do that.

:S Sorry if i've gone on a bit, but she will not listen to me and i can't bare to see him go.

Answer 1

I know this is going to sound harsh but if it is that important to you then pay for him yourself so your Mum will have the spare cash to get her own horse.

It seems unfair of her to sell the horse to buy one that suits her better but at the same time it's unfair to expect her to keep paying for a horse she doesn't like and can't enjoy.

Sort out a financial workaround and get another horse as well, if you can't find some way of doing that then she is going to sell him because it's her money and she has a right to enjoy it as well.

Answer 2

Well, first off, find out if your school has an equestrian team. If they do, then you would be able to bring your youngster down to the campus and school him down there. Also, he would most likely be getting some show-experience under his belt.

If not, get your mom to get in touch with a professional trainer who can help with any insecurities she may have with your horse. The days that you aren't at school, you could ride or lunge your horse.

The main thing that you should try to acheive in this situation is a schedual that can be followed to keep your horse busy and always learning.

Answer 3

maybe find a stable you could keep him at near your school?

Answer 4

If you're only gone 4 days a week - what's the big deal?  Ride him when you're home and have the trainer ride when you're not.

Answer 5

there are some breeds that mature later. Most warm-blood breeds don't mature until they are 7 or 8 so maybe you should tell her that your horse will be there soon.

As for riding lessons, even the olympic riders have trainers and you can always learn something. Maybe she should take lessons to build confidence

Answer 6

Well if you're only gonna be gone for 4 days a week that leaves you 3 that you can still ride him. Which doesn't sound very fair of your mom to sell him on you (it'd be different if you were gone all the time.) Tell your mom that you have plans for him that you can't do with a dressage horse. Does your mom have to ride him while you're away, she can just do ground work with him. Have her get a cheap horse and train it dressage. Or if she insists on selling him try to get one that will make you both happy.

I hope that I helped you. Good Luck (:  

Answer 7

There are colleges in Michigan and other places that let you take your horse on campus.  You could find someone to lease it and it would provide cash for your mom.  You could take it to a horse rescue and ask them to keep it for you and you provide donations to support it.  The donations would be deductable.  

You could hide it on a farm with a lot of horses, maybe they would not notice

Answer 8

well you really just need to train him so you get a horse trainer and if you need the money ask your other family members or you can have a garage sale or maybe you can just hide him

Answer 9

Well if your close enough to your college to commute, then tell her that you have plans for the horse working him several nights a week, he has so much potential it would be a shame to sell him now.. tell her you want to put more time on him to see if he will end up working well for eventing. then if you put time and training into him, and he doesnt work out for you, then you can sell him for much more than you could get for him now (the money may be enough to convince your mom)...

good luck!!