Help. I have a daughter who is turning 10 in a few weeks.?

Question

She doesn't seem to have any friends. She doesn't get invited to other birthday parties. I need some ideas to throw a great party that other kid will want to come. Please help me.

Answer 1

Try just setting up a birthday party, and invite her whole class. It will give her a chance to socialize with her whole class, and hopefully make some friends.

Make sure the kids are occupied at the party though, make it a theme or something. What's her favorite tv show?(something that is good for both genders) What's her favorite cartoon? Hawaiian? Fiesta? Set up games so they always have something to do. Maybe do a carnival theme, set up games and things so the kids can play whatever they want and can take a break whenever they want.

Get a bouncy-bounce? Kids love those.

Hope i gave you a few ideas!

Good luck!

=)

Answer 2

sounds like you should have been a better parent, and instilled vital social qualities into your child.

Answer 3

i turned 11 this year. I have been inviting this girl to my parties the last few years and i never got invited to hers. she thinks she is this princess and that she's to good to talk to me. this year i invited this 1 kid at our table to my party infront of her and she got all mad. it was SOOO funny. lol! i would have a party at pump it up. good luck

Answer 4

Have her pick just one or two ofher friends that she is closest to. Go to the Beauty College and let them get a maincure and pedicure and go out to a nice lunch her choice.

Or if you want a bigger party, have an all girl party and enlist some of your friends to give them "Spa" treatment. WIth party favors such as: nail polish, emory boards, nail brushes etc. The Dollar Tree store has a TON of stuff right now for " girly" stuff. It's fun and your daughter will feel so special.

Answer 5

I would schedule a time to talk with your daughter's teacher to discuss your concerns and find out if the teacher has made any observations about her personality, ability to make friends, kids she  routinely plays with, etc.     This might give you some insight.  

Why don't you go to the school (within the next week or so) and have lunch with your daughter.    See who she talks to; try to talk to some of the other students.  

Sometimes, a small party with 3 or 4 other girls can be just as much fun as a larger party.     The activities could be more tailored to girls that age and more bonding could occur.    

For a larger party, try renting out a skating rink (ice or roller); a bowling alley; rock climbing facility; indoor swimming pool; or horse stable.    

You could have a "circus" themed  party in the park (if the city will allow-check with City Hall) or if  you have a big back yard.    Rent some inflatable jumping toys; have some pony rides; face painting; carnival type games;  a popcorn cart; sno cone machine; performing clowns, etc.

I would really suggest that you work on helping her develop one on one relationships.     Make an appearance at the school; invite a child over to spend the night or go on an afternoon outing.    Suggest to another mom that the two of you take your girls to see a movie or out to dinner.    Encourage your daughter to join a softball and/or soccer team.      

Good luck!

Answer 6

Having a "great party" does not necessarily mean that people will come.  If other children do not like your daughter, they may not come to her party no matter where you have it.

It's way more important here to ask yourself the question, "Why don't other children seem to like her?"  Is she painfully shy?   Is she very different-looking from her friends in the way she dresses and conducts herself?  Or is she mean and aggressive, so other kids shy away from her?

One birthday party more or less will not make a difference in your daughter's life.   What you really need to do is to get to the bottom of the reason she has no friends, and try to help her with this.

Answer 7

Have her party at school. Even though it doesn't seem like she has friends, she may have a few at school. Also, the other kids in her class will appreciate the break and remember that she included them on her special day.

If this isn't possible, your daughter can get a list of names in her class and you can send invitations to school.

Also, don't just depend on just her friends showing up for a party. Invite the people with kids that you've met since moving there, and neighbors!

Answer 8

In this instance, I would do a 2-stage party.  I would have a pizza/cupcake party at school (need advance permission).  Then I would also invite 3 of the girls to an overnight party.  Make it something so fun that they won't be able to resist.  That way, she will make some close friends and it will help ease the situation for her.  She will be the hero of the class for giving everyone a break, but have the opportunity to get to know a few on a personal basis.  If there is a beauty school nearby, schedule time there to take the girls for makeovers (ask mothers first if this involves haircuts,) go shopping and have them try on clothes and give you a fashion show, then have some kind of craft/activity set up at home.  At the end of the night, give them all facials and pedicures before bedtime.  It will be a big hit.

Answer 9

Well, if she does any extra-curricular activities such as sports, invite her sports team or her friends on the team. You can also invite her entire school class. Invite siblings, cousins, and neighbors too. Don't worry it will turn out great!