Help? I have terrible self-esteem!?

Question

Hi, I know this is really long but I'm very upset and need help, so please read it.

I have always been overweight, not heavily, but yeah never skinny.

And my weight always really flunctuated.

Especiallynow. I'm in puberty. :|

I developed my firs stretch marks sort of across my bum and upper thigh area last year, but I didn't worry that much as they quickly faded and were covered by bathers, etc. anyway.

Since the start of this year, I flunctuated my weight again, and grew b***s!

I now have them on my b***s, but not that bad there.

I also have a 5 x 5cm - ish patch on the back of each thigh & have them on the insides of each thigh, however they are more dinty but aren't so bad.

But the main ones are on my hips. They are thick and terrible, especially on my left side.

My main problem is that you can see them! Like In a bikini ect.

I'm using lots of stuff to fade them, and it's working. But i always worry that they will fade to white/silver like my other ones did but still be visible. [Some of my other ones are!]

I often cry about them because I'm so embarrassed and ashamed by them.

All i can think all the time is that "I wish i could rewind to the start of 2007 where i had NONE and watch my weight so i didn't get any!" I would do ANYTHING to rewind my life!!!!!!!!!!!!

And it really really makes me upset.

I'm even crying writing this now. I'm so so so stupid.

What can i do to help my self-esteem? Any words of encouragement?

They say they are genetic, but my mum even told me she doesn't have 1 on her body! Even after 2 pregnancies.

She tries to say "dont worry about them! Nobody cares, they are fading, they aren't that bad!"

I mean, I know everyone has stretchmarks, but not like this.

I hate them so much.

I'm still crying. ahhh. help.

Thanks heaps.

Answer 1

ii know thiis isnt much but i think you should take up martial arts, i know you are probably feeling horrified and thinking that you have too be really fit too go ther ebut you dont believe me there is some people in my class (im 14 the youngest in the adults class) are very overweight! but i noticed how theyve lost weight!

martial arts boost peoples confidence and self esteem!

it ALSO helps you lose weight and IT TONES YOUR BODY i think it would be PERFECT for you!

and its a great hobby to do!

please for me just try it and if you dont like it you dont have too go back but just give it a few trys!

hope it all gets better for you!

Answer 2

Okay first of all, the ones that you have will fade. You can keep yourself from getting more if you take care of your skin , inside and out. You need to take vitamin E, vitamin A, Copper, Vitamin C, and fish oil. All of these are good for your skin and either help produce collagen or keep your skin hydrated. Always use a good moisturizer and soak in a tub that has olive oil in the water about twice a week. (It makes the tub slippery so be careful) Also regular exercise keeps the skin cells hydrated and drinking water is huge help. You may be prone to stretchmarks but you can keep some of them away. They aren't as bad as you think they are, I'm sure. Good Luck.

Answer 3

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