Help!?! I just saw my teenage daughter in a Girls Gone Wild video???

Question

I recieved the shock of my life last night when my husband told me that our neighbor's son informed him that my daughter is on a Girls Gone Wild Spring Break video. Her top is off and she appeared drunk out of her mind. I don't want to embarrass her by confronting her, but then again I don't want her to be foolish enough to repeat her mistake. The video is available online also. Should I try to get it removed or just let it go?

Answer 1

You need to talk to her now!!  If she's over 18 and signed a waiver there's nothing you can do about it but when you said teenage that led me to believe she's under 18 so you have every right to get involved legally if you want.  However, I just think that talking to her and letting her know you know may be enough for her not to do it again!!

Answer 2

She's probably embarrassed to death as it is, if she remembers doing it, but yeah, you should talk to her about it.  

How old is she?  If she's of age (18) and has signed a release there is probably nothing you can do about it.  The only catch might be if she was legally impaired at the time she signed the paperwork. You could sue in that case but I don't know that you would win.  

The publicity from such an ordeal might be more than you or your daughter are willing or able to handle so think it over before you do anything.

Answer 3

you proabably can not get it removed because most likely she consented to being taped. I would definetly confront her about her behavaior. I do not know if she is underage, but anways it is not right to be so drunk acting and to take off her top infront of people.

Answer 4

I think you should try to get it removed if she is underaged, however GGW is known for having underaged girls on there. Also, very many people probably has already bought it or downloaded it. She made a huge mistake and may not realize it yet. It may be a mistake that she will have to learn about the hard way. But as a parent, I would definitely address the issue. She needs to know that you know about it. Do not mention that the neighbor brought it to your attention. Just tell her that you and your husband needs to talk with her- then tell her that someone brought it to your attention that she was on a GGW video. You defended her and said they must be mistakened because you know she would not do such a thing- so you looked at the tape and could not believe it and that it really hurt you because you know you taught her better than that.

Answer 5

I would freak and loose my mind if my daughter did this first make sure that it is her then record it and show it to her with her father in the room. I know you are trying to do the right thing by being her friend but reality you are her parent but a friend that has to have a wall where you cross the line so keep your ground rules, and dont let her get away with it. If you embaress her she might look at the light at the end of the tunnel and you may even prevent one day someone rape-ing her and even wors than that. If i where you i would do something about it no questins asked!!!! Good luck ;)

Answer 6

you wont be able to get it removed if she is above 18 . So i would just talk to her about it and let her know you know and make sure what she did was wrong, and so maybe so wont get wasted again and make the same mistake.

Answer 7

i think you should do your best to get it removed

this is your daughters body  on the internet for perverts to look at how does that make you feel

and talk to her  help her if it happend once it might happen again

Answer 8

First I would see this video for myself.People do cause mischief.Then I would have that talk if its necessary.Doesn't matter if she is 18 some behavior seems OK at the time but you later will have regrets.Either way you need to know.If she is 18 then not much you can say or do except express your disappointment.

Answer 9

1) Since you say she is teenaged - she SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN DRUNK.

2) If she was under the age of 18, she did not have the authority to give consent, and GGW should have taken stricter measures to ensure she was of legal age.

Why are you concerned about embarrassing her? I would be very upset about the underage drinking and nudity.  Her actions should be more embarrassing to her than your potential conversation.  Her actions could have been dangerous.  If she was drunk out of her mind, she could have been taken advantage of.  She could have driven or gotten in the car of a drunk driver.  Embarrassment is certainly to least of my worries if I were in your shoes.

You can try to get her footage removed, but once things are on the internet, they're pretty much there to stay.  Maybe point out to her that this incident may very well follow her into adulthood - and infringe upon job searches, promotions, etc.  

It could also be the start of a very bad habit.

BTW - if she was 18 and they had consent to film her actions, they certainly didn't have the legal authority to serve her alcohol...

Answer 10

You should confront her about it. Let her know that not only are your neighbors and others recognizing her and forming opinions, but if she ever goes for a job interview or something and gets recognized, it could really hurt her career.

Answer 11

I'm willing to bet she gave her consent before being filmed and having it put out on the market.  If not and if she's under the age of 18... yes, that's a BIG problem.  Don't feel like you're embarrassing her by bringing it up to her... if she was old enough to get that drunk and put herself in the situation she's old enough to deal with people like her parents and neighbors seeing the footage. :(  It's unfortunate, but that's the way it goes.... just talk to her about it and the choices she makes.

Answer 12

I would get it removed for the sake of her. :) . im only 15 so i dont know much about parenting .but i think u should calmly ask her  if she was in a girls gone wild video . and try to talk to her about it . :)

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Answer 13

Little late now don't you think.......leave it be, what are you going to do buy all the videos they have made. Just let her know that all her friends and family can see her on this video and that you are not impressed. I always ask my daughter "What would your grandma think?" and then she sees my point :) Good Luck!

Answer 14

that sux really im sorry for you but just talk to her about it and she probably knew that she was going to be in it so she cant say that she didnt know also they probably wont take that off the site because thats their new video and their new souce of money to continue the videos so i wouldnt try not to be rude but because there are probably alot of teenage daughters on there but you said she looked drunk so id talk to her about that also the top off part is a big no no but she probably thought it was fun id be a confused about the situation too but just talk to her about it i geuss thats the only thing to do or ground the living h**l out of her it kinda depeneds on the age if she was i had a 15 year old daughter and this happened which it wouldnt she would never see the light of day untill she was 25 but thats just me (joke)

Answer 15

if shes over 18 im sorry but you wont be able to get it removed. But since it is an awkward situation i would take her out lunch so your in a more "up lifting" environement then just be honest with what occured. Tell her your not angry just a little dissapointed and that you understand shes young and wnats to have fun but she should respect herself and her body. And tell her the consquences of the video like whoever wnated to watch it can find it and once something is on the internet their is no way to get it back. good luck!

Answer 16

1. either let her do with her life what she wants or 2.confront her and tell her not to do it again....however if she is 18 which she should be if shes on that video then really there's nothing you can do because shes free to do what she wants

Answer 17

You are going to have a really hard time to get it removed, i would bring it to her attention, and talk with her, and let her know that you are not mad, but you are concerned for her future and her reputation. If she is underage i would go to a lawyer or contact you lawyer regardless to see if he know of a legal way to get it removed.

Answer 18

Be the mother, assert your authority on her and be sure that she doesn't stray into a lifestyle like this. If she's over 18, you may feel like you cannot do much to talk to her, but there's never a wrong time for this. You believe you raised her better than this, then she should act like it.

Answer 19

Man, that sucks. Nothing you can do can get it removed. Teens have to be 18 to be in these videos, so there's nothing illegal or anything about it. She's an adult and is going to make her own mistakes.

Answer 20

Most young adaults do alot of crazy things that they would never think that there parents are going to find out about. How would you feel if this were somthing you did or that your Mother found out about one of your most emarassing moments and your Mother confronted you about it?

Answer 21

Hmmm if she's really was that drunk she may not even have remembered it... it's the drinking you should concentrate, not the boob-showing, because alcohol would greatly diminish her ability to have inhibitions against such behavior, which she probably does.

If I were you, I'd ask her if it was all right with her to be in the video... if she says that she had no problem with it (May have just been an exciting spur of the moment thing), then I would stop the conversation there "Ok, I guess can understand that" Etc (But still warmly and understandingly)

If she is ashamed and it's her drinking to blame, just tell her that while it's fun to get a little wild on alcohol, it's only fun because you lose your inhibitions, which are very important, and very helpful in preventing regrettable things like this.

Answer 22

u should really confront ur daughter about it..even tho it might be akward/embarrassing for either u or her, it still needs to be done. if u think its not good for her to be on Girls Gone Wild then tell her that and try to persuade her.

try to get the video removed but if its just too complicated then stop and let it go.

Answer 23

Do you mean teenage as in 17 or younger?  If so you can join the many who are suing GGW for showing underage drunken girls naked.  

If she is 18 yes let her know that everyone will see or could see I mean if that guy didn't tell you your husband could have seen it.  Don't these girls realize that their brothers dads, uncles class mates boyfriends boyfriends friends can see it!  Doing something like that prevents you from any kind of political career and could prevent you from any type of carreer if someone see's it.  Tell her so she knows and is not embarrased later by it.  She probably doesn't remember doing it or didn't understand that millions of people around the world will see it.

Answer 24

thats disgusting. you should talk to her about that and make sure that she knows never to belie in the tooth fairy. Because of the tooth fairy who gives money for selling body parts she's probably believed that she can sell her body for money.

Answer 25

you need to confront her about it. When you are doing this, be sure that you are calm and quiet. no one likes to be yelled at when something serious is going on.. if she is over 18, then it is only her decision to get it removed. if shes younger, go to the ggw sitte  and talk to them about it.

Answer 26

You need to confront her and make her accountable....if you saw it then millions of other did as well, some of whom you all might know. She needs to be aware of this and if its embarrassing then so be it....she will live and hopefully never do it again.

Answer 27

Ok....what you just said here:  I don't want to embarrass her by confronting her..is the reason she did it in the first place-------YOUR lack of responsibility in raising this girl correctly. In order for this video to be online with HER face in it, she had to sign a release form. She obviously did. So, now, you must face the truth that she WANTS it to be posted. If you cared about your daughter and wanted her to know right from wrong, you woulda done it. No compassion here if that's what you are looking for. Joe Francis has faced charges and went to jail for this already. Drunk is no excuse for acting the fool.

Answer 28

If shes 18 then theres nothing you can do if shes under 18 have at it.  Are you sure its really her???  Also if shes under 21 and drunk there might be legal action that way also bc I dont think they are allowed to sign thoes things while drunk and drunk minors on tv is a bad thing.

Answer 29

you'll have to talk to your daughter and resolve this issue with patience. just make her understand the fact that its very foolish to do so. you show her the video and convince her so that even she must feel that it is really awkward. you don't remove this video before letting her know that this is online and everyone across the globe have the access to this one.

Answer 30

Sorry to say, there's likely no getting it removed from the internet once it's out there. But you should talk to her. We can't always protect our children from the choices they make, and its good for them to suffer the consequences of their actions. I know I would be livid. I think you should talk to her, she should know that its out there if she doesn't know already. But what's more, she needs to understand the long-standing repercussions of her behavior.

Answer 31

I'm so sorry. I'd talk to her about it. Chances are she's over 18 right? If not I'd have it removed. If she is over eighteen...go to her as a parent and explain to her how that's not right and why. Chances are she's doesn't know and she'll be humiliated. Reassure her that you love her and still view her as the same person....and that she just made a mistake. Explain that God has already forgiven her and talk to her about it. Good luck.