Help! I need sleep!?

Question

My son is 27 months old and he wakes up during the night 1-3 times crying for mommy. I go up there and he stops crying and goes back to sleep. He has slept through the night since he was 2months old until 2 months ago. If my husband goes up there or my 15yr old step daughter he screams and asks for mommy. He is in the same room, same bed as he has been since he turned one. No changes to scare him. We thought nightmares for awhile but not for this long and that many a night. He is a mommy's boy. He prefers me to change his diaper and get him dressed etc. If daddy does it he keeps saying momma try. We still have my husband do it so he knows that mommy won't give him everything he wants. I am with him the majority of the time. I only work 3 days a week. We are at a loss of things to try! He cries and cries. We tried the letting him cry himself to sleep thing but you can only do that for so long before it feels like you are abusing your child! Will my son be 17 and still cry for me at night!! PLEASE HELP~~~~~!

My husband and I let hime come into bed if he woke up at for two weeks. He would get up crying and we would bring him into bed with us. He would snuggle up as close as he can to me and I love it! But my husband and I both thought that this was gonna start a really bad habit and chose to go back to the otherway. Even when he was in bed with me he would cry alittle until I put my arm around him. Very sweet and I love to cuddle but we do not have a big bed and I would rather him in his own bed. Don't worry no fight from me about the child in the adult bed issue, What works for one family may not work for mine and who am I to judge how you raise your children! Do what you have to for your own family, not to please others!

Answer 1

You already started a bad habit by allowing him to sleep with you.  When he cries the first time go check on him, make sure he is dry and not poopy.  Then put him back down in the bed, give him a pat on the back and walk out of the room.  He is going to scream, he is going to cry because he wants back in your bed.  Do not go back in, allow him to cry and put himself back to sleep.  

Answer 2

Don't worry! The hardest part is remembering that whatever you do will not lead to major issues and counselling when he's 40, despite what some people will tell you, he'll be just fine.

Why not move his bed into your room for a few weeks, or get a camp bed. Not put it next to your bed, but just in the same room, so that if he wakes up he can see you. As he gets used to settling himself again, keep trying to move him back.

  I agree that letting him cry is horrible and not a sensible solution if it goes on for more than a few days. For your sake as much as his. Just trust yourself, and follow the course of action that feels right to you. You're his mother so you know what's right, not me or any of these people. And remember, no one has the right to critisize you, he's your son so it's your decision. =)

Answer 3

I totally sympathies with you as my son was like this all day and all night from being born until 13 months old.I had to let him cry to sleep and it is truly horrible.My son is the same with nappy changes and feeds etc all has to be done by his mommy.It seems to me perhaps your son is looking for reassurance try a night light the ones that stick beside his bed and he can press to turn on.Keep trying letting him cry himself to sleep i know it is awful i truly do but he has to learn when he cries go in and tell him mummy is here but I can hear you but it is bed time I will see you in the morning offer him a teddy or night light then leave and stick to it.And always give him positive feedback when he sleeps alone in bed kids love it tell him he is a big brave boy.Just an idea hope i have helped.always stand your ground children love consistency and routine.

Answer 4

when he crys for you check to see if wet hungry or hurt . if not sad to say but let him cry . he is getting to age he is realizing he can make you come when he wants you to . and you are suffering from this as is your relationship i am sure. it isnt abuse to let baby cry if nothing is wrong with them . have you ever watched nanny 911 . it will take a while but he will get to where he will stop doing this is he sees you arent going to jump to him .  

Answer 5

before you and your husband go 2 bed let him sleep in ur bed when he goes to sleep put him on the floor or on a small mattress.

Answer 6

I agree that if he doesn't need anything, let him cry. I would also suggest that you cuddle up with a teddy bear of his so that it smells like you and give it to him when you put him to bed. Sometimes kids need a security toy or blanket to hold on to.