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So I met this very sensual sensitive caring man on the internet and we bonded. We set a date to meet and after we had dinner we slept together. It was wonderful just to lay in his arms and smell his smell. Then his cell phone rang and he went to the bathroom to talk. I followed and heard bits and pieces leading me to believe he was in a relationship. So now he gets out of the bathroom and I ask him and he says he is married for 7 years with a son. He said his wife doesn't like to satisfy his needs and plus he doesn't really love her. I was heartbroken because I was truly in love with him. Anyway that was 5 months ago and we are going away together this weekend. I just can't let go. I love his smells and him all over! I don't care if he is married!

My question is how do I get him to get divorced? Please no rude answers because I know how you people in this section can be!

Answer 1

Sweety, if you were giving him what he really needed he wouldn't be married.

Instead, you're letting him have his cake and eat it too.

There's nothing you can do to get him to get a divorce.  You could tell his wife, and ruin her life.  But do you think he's going to run to you after you do that?  You'd be in the same boat she is in - alone, having just lost the man of your dreams to stupidity.  Of course, HER stupidity would be on his part.  Yours would be your own...

Move on with your life.  Get a guy that hasn't already devoted his life to somebody else.  Believe it or not, there is somebody out there who loves and respects you enough not to have to lie and cheat on you...

Answer 2

blah blah blah he just wants to have s*x with you that's all you are good for.

mark my words

1) he will never ever leave her

2) if she decided to leave him because he is a good for nothing low life and he settles for you ... he will cheat on you

3) you will desere him and the hurt he will put you through

oh i guess i won't be getting the best answer for this one lol

Answer 3

Loving everything from the smells, the emotions, sounds like addiction.  Perhaps an AA meeting?  He is no good for you.  Yes, he may be honest and caring and tell you the truth in a mature manner about his marriage.  He may want to be faithful and want to be a better person, but the fact that he doesn't stop means that he can't, perhaps low self esteem, perhaps some buried trauma, I don't know, I don't know either of you personally.  But that is not the point.  Can you really not live without him?  Or is it just human nature to be scared of the the pain of being alone?  You can handle it! ^_^

Answer 4

Even if he were to leave his wife would you really want to be with a man that will just cheat on you to?  I understand that your very hurt, but it will be better for you to just break away from him now.

Answer 5

lol yea bad choice of section to put it in lol...but if he doesnt love her why is he even with her still....does she know about you?..i would be kinda gaurded because there is a chance that it could happen to you to....maybe you should make him choose...you or her...if he doesnt pick you at least you didnt waste anymore time with him!

Answer 6

I think you are a really silly lady.  What makes u think he would leave his wife for you.  He had no respect for you from the beginning.  If he did he would have divorced his wife and then slept with you.  

HE WILL DO THE SAME TO YOU.  Heck he already is.  He is cheating you and his wife out time, attention and love.  You are his side line ho and will probably remain just that.  You are like his skeet skeet chick.  You have already showed him what u are and capable of.  You definitely are not wife material and trust me he knows this.

AND EVEN IF U DIDN'T HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF OR HIS WIFE HAVE U EVER THOUGHT ABOUT HIS CHILD.  HOW HIS CHILD FEELS WHEN HIS ATTENTION IS TAKEN AWAY AND GIVEN TO YOU.  

How would you feel if that was ur child.  

And i agree with everyone else u should have posted this in a different section.

Answer 7

You can't make him get a divorce.  Imagine though if he does and marries you and then there is another woman because you no longer satisfy his needs... How would you feel then?  Most likely that's what will happen.  Specialy when you say half the ment cheat on their wives what would make you so special that he wouldn't cheat on you next?

Answer 8

My question to you would be why put this ina  wedding forum?  Why not marriage and divorce?  You have woman plannig their weddings and the last thing they want to hear is a guy cheating!

If he is willing to cheat on her, he'll be willing to cheat on you.  And you cant force a divorce, they both have to sign.

Answer 9

i agree wtih "wedding planner and b2b"

Answer 10

Even if you can convince him to get a divorce, if he cheats on her, there's always the possibility he'll cheat on you too.

Answer 11

Wow...this guy is good...he's really got you believing all this c**p, hasn't he?

Face it, honey...every guy has the same story...his wife doesn't give him enough, she's crazy, and if he leaves her, she'll commit suicide.

The truth is, they all just want some on the side and they have no intention of leaving their wives.

THIS is REALITY, honey...and millions of women have learned it the hard way!

Answer 12

You do realize that he is married. Since he hasn't left her yet, he isn't going to leave her. He's using you. And to let you know, 50% of men don't cheat. 50% of LOSERS cheat. You have found a loser. If you call her and tell he is cheating on her he will no longer want to be with you. If you do it knowing that she is unstable and she attempts to kill herself or does so, then you can be charged with murder or attempt to murder. Also, you are just as disgusting as he is because you are letting him cheat on his wife. Sorry, I'm not going to be nice to you, you are disgusting. When he leaves you for his wife or another woman... Well, I told you so!

Oh, and btw:  has he thought that maybe his wife doesn't satisfy him because he doesn't help her around the house or help with their son or spend time with her because he's out with you? Grow up! Find a REAL man...

ETA:  Oh, and your name suits you fine! Out of control is what you are posting something like this in a wedding section. Do you realize that times are changing? Men have seen their fathers cheat and mothers cheat and know what it does to families.Men aren't so willing to do that anymore. Especially since the fact is that if this man hasn't gotten a divorce then he is still in love with his wife. You are pretty selfish thinking only about yourself and not about this man's family...

Answer 13

I'm really sorry for you.  He won't get a divorce ever.  You will be waiting around for him twenty years from now.  If you confront his wife he may get that divorce but he will no longer be interested in you and may be extremly angry.

You are in a no win situation and will be sorry.

If by some chance you beat the odds how happy will you be knowing you're with a cheater and he will obviously feel justified in cheating on you in the future.

And how can you live like that knowing that you are taking something that doesn't belong to you?