Help I need to tell him?

Question

i am 8 wks pregnant and i am not sure how to tell the dad that i am pregnant. Hes my best friend and we have both recently both broken up with our exs and we had s*x but we decided that we were just hurt and we should wait and see how relationship goes before we do it again. I am 27 and hes 31 so we are both secure in jobs and who were are. I am just not sure on how to tell him i got pregnant from our one night stand. I am sure its not my exs cause id be about 3 months if it was his. I was on the pill and we used protection. we just got out of long term relationships where we were cheated on by our partners. We already are roommates so we already live together.we realize we made a mistake. we both love kids. i still haven't had the courage to tell him i am afraid hes going to leave since i am pregnant. He's my best friend and roommate i have never kept anything from him and he knows something is wrong but i am all confused on what to do.I really want this baby and i am keeping it. But we are both on the rebpound is that a way to start our relationship out. How do i tell him i know i will begining to show soon so i need to tell him.

Answer 1

you are lucky, you have a friendship with the father of your baby. a lot of single mothers don;t even have that. A baby does not mean you have to jump into a romantic relationship, or heaven forbid a marriage based only on raising a child. He needs to know soon and he needs to help you raise this child, but make sure he knows that you are not trying to trap him and this was as much a surprise to you as it is to him. If he is a  true friend he should support you in your decision to keep this baby. I wish you well.  

Answer 2

try writting a letter something were you wont have to come out and say it. But everything will be fine if you secure with work and everything its okay if the man doesnt want to stay around. If hes your friend he should support you! Good luck  

Answer 3

I am sure if he is your bestfriend he will sit down and listen what you have to say! He won't just get up and leave! But I am telling you a baby is alot for a man to handle so he may be stand offish a little at first but will then will get better! You need to tell him though soon if you are 8weeks already! You going to need all his family history for your first OB GYN appointment!

Well good luck sweetie!!!

Answer 4

Take a deep breath, sit him down and tell him

Good luck

Answer 5

just because you are pregnant, it dosnt mean you have to jump into a relationship...tell him, but then take things slow...you can remain friends through out this, and if it turns into something later, then great, if not, at least you are still capable of being good parents regardless.

You need to tell him, the sooner the better.

Answer 6

Best friends don't leave when you get pregnant.

He'll be very hurt that you didn't trust him, so go ahead and tell him.

When you tell him, remember that you have known, and had time to deal with the fact for a lot longer than him, so give him some room to get used to the idea.

And yes, the best marriages start as friendships.  Friendship is so much easier than love which has so much tangled up in it.  It is so much easier to live with someone when you are friends to one another - so don't worry.  If you get married, you'll do great.

How do you tell him?  Well, don't do it in public - that wouldn't be fair.  Just say "I'm pregnant with your baby."  And let the conversation go from there.  Be clear about what you want and what you expect, allow him the same room.  But you can't have the conversation until you start it.

Answer 7

do you think it's possible your past relationships failed because you chose to live with an ex so your partners probably felt that they were doomed to begin with?

Answer 8

awwe hun im in a similar situation, broke up with boyfriend and one night stand with best friend created this little life i have inside me now. Heres some things to consider, if hes really your best friend, he most likely loves you unconditionally one some level, and i think he would be more hurt if you dont tell him. also you mentioned he knows something is wrong, maybe hes already suspecting it and he is looking for confirmation from you. i think you should sit him down and calmly and rationally discuss this, bring into a fact of your morals and vales (if your prolife/ prochoice) you said you wanted this baby and bottom line there is nothing he can do, its fully your decision. i do admit it is the scariest thing ever to do.

good luck and god bless.  

Answer 9

i dont see why he would flip. even tho you guys aren't married or really even in a relationship you can make this work. sit him down and let him know whats going on. if you dont soon he will prolly be alil upset

Answer 10

If he truly is your best friend he will understand. You both seem to be mature adults so when you are both relaxed sit him down and let him know that you are pregnant and that you are planning on keeping it. I know you are afraid he will leave but if he is a real man he won't and he will take care of his responsibilities whether you two decide to become exclusive or not. If this is his first child he will be scared but most likely excited. If he needs space to think give it to him he will come around. Good luck!

Answer 11

your friends, just first think about whether u want him in the baby's life or not. Then sit daddy down and tell him. At your ages, he may be happier than u think