Help! I want to hurt my kids!?

Question

My kids are driving me crazy. They are completely oblivious to everything I say and do. I want to hurt them and make them cry! I don't feel like this all the time, but there are times when I just have to lock myself in a room so I don't throw them through a window! My husband is no help, as he just thinks I'm "having a bad day" when this happens.

I have no friends, because no one wants to be around my children.

I know it's all my fault for being a lousy mom, and not able to discipline, but now they're out of control, and I can't handle it anymore!

Answer 1

you need to get in touch with a crisis center and get your family some counseling. it does help to walk away and calm down and NEVER act out of anger. not all your fault!!! your husband needs to step up by letting your children know they need to mind you and respect you. the two of you need to work together and stay CONSISTENT!!!!!! don't back down or give in.

Answer 2

It sounds like all of you need therapy. Your kids because they sound like they are just to roudy, and you to help yourself handle when they get that way.

Answer 3

I hope to god this question is serious and not some bored teenager making a mockery out of something serious.  Anyways to answer your question.  Call a friend, your mom, another adult somebody.  Have them come over and watch your kids and go to your local ER now.  This is not something to take lightly.  I am sorry but there is something wrong if you want to hurt your children and make them cry.  And for there protection from you they need to be with someone else until you are stable again.  It is normal to get upset with your children.  But it is not normal to want to hurt them.  I myself have an unruly 4 and a half year old.  She was diagnosed with adhd and odd.  We are doing therapy and other things with no meds.  It sucks and wears on my patients.  Its not as simple as just getting a break.  I truly believe you need to be on meds.  Those kinds of feelings are not normal and can be very scary....  Please seek help imediately.....

Answer 4

call 911 if you want to hurt your children. Get up and out of the house. For your protection and theirs

Answer 5

ur not lousy. Children do this ALLL the time as a teacher i KNOW u are not the only one.

1. Talk to someone, Sometimes just venting to someone is the answer, I know it helps me calm down.

2. Supernanny is ur friend.

Read her advice.

3. Your r the parent. God only knows u never feel that way. But u are. its time to do the Im the boss not u dance.

Children need rules. If they feel  they can push them they will. If they KNOW that u will not correct the situation they will do it over and over again and not care. It is a bad habbit. U might need to get some ear plugs if they want to scream it out.

If u know ur neighbors, Apoligize in advance.

there are many things u can do. Start with a Good parenting Book, and Make a plan.. STICK TO IT. I know u can do it.

Answer 6

wood shed

Answer 7

STOP what your doing and pick up the phone call 911 or if your husband is home ,get up and go for a drive or walk ,leave him to deal with kids you need some time and space to pull your self together . If you cant leave then go into a room that you can lock your self into and try to calm your self .when you feel a little calmer go back home get the phone book and find the number for the child abuse or crisis hot line .talk to them they can and will get you the help you need before its to late and you do hurt one of your children .Remember Gods there and on your side cry out to him and let him calm you so you make the right choice .

Answer 8

your children need age appropriate rewards and consequences for their actions (ie. sticker for good behavior, no tv for bad behavior)  be consistent and don't become emotionally involved in the discipline, just go through the motions and be calm about it.

just stick with it and your children will come around, it takes time patients, and most of all love.

Answer 9

Hey, i know what your saying....same thing here....my 9 and 7 year olds are making me NUTS....... Use a voice there not used too...with a look of death....threaten them with something....like sending them to boarding school or military school....actaully pick up the phone and dial some numbers....

Or cry infront of them....let them know they are hurting you with there terrible behavior....Works for me...Give it try...

Answer 10

We all have been there. Thinking driving down the road and wanting to throw them out the window. Would you do it? No!

But we have those days.  You are not a lousy mom, just a tired mom. Do you work out of the home? Or stay home with them? How many children do you have?  

I find getting away and getting time for myself helps.  I said helps, it is not a cure. I am a stay at home mom. And it does fustrate me that I am yelling all day and being yelled at as well. I wouldn't take this from a boss. You know what I mean?  Just take a breath. I have 3, my middle child , who is 5, is very sweet, but boy can she make life miserable.  I have found that I have to stick with the discipline even if it is not the best at the time.  I make changes the next time.  I have done time out, it has taken up to 45 minutes to get her to listen and behave. I can tell you I have been able to get through to her, she has been getting better.  You need to get your husband to understand that you ARE NOT CRAZY AND HAVING A BAD DAY.  It is not to late, you can change. If you can't change on your own some how get someone to help you. Moms do get tired and worn out!! I have been and will be in the place you are right now.  We just have to remember we are in control, we are the parent, and try to be calm and stay consistant with whatever discipline we use.

I hope that some of this will help. I do know what you are going through. Also try to find a MOPS group near you. It is a kind of support group with other moms. Check it out, it may help.

Answer 11

Your husband must be a loser if he doesn't help you, which I bet is a major cause for your problem.

When you feel like hurting your kids, just leave them, walk out of your house..TRUST ME ! You anger may be associate with your lack of control and taking it out on them will be your greatest regret.

Answer 12

It's never too late to "lay down the law" and take back control over your house. Set up some rules - make it clear what are the expected behaviors and what behaviors will not be tolerated - then punish any offenders of these rules - I suggest spanking them - it's quick and to the point - not to mention very effective. If you are consistent and don't give in you'll start seeing a difference in about a week or two.

Answer 13

you need help. call a crisis center and talk to someone. now.

perhaps some parenting classes could help you handle the stress. not saying you are a bad mom, but it sounds like you need some management skills. and copeing skills.

we all have rough days. but that is very severe.