Help! I want to move out...?

Question

Ok, so heres the deal.

I am 20 nearly 21 and I have lived with my aunt and uncle since I was 5 and i am SOOO ready to get out of this house

We fight constantly and have so many conflicting views on just about everything. I am going to a college that is 45 miles away and right now they are expecting me to make that trip 2-4 times a day depending. I also have a couple of 5 hour breaks in my schedual so I would have no place to go or anything yto do for that amout of time.

If they had it their way, and they have told me this, I will be living here until I am 25-26 years old. I cant do that I will go crazy...

What are some arguments I can use as to why it is beneficial for me to move out?

Some days I am going to be at school until 7:20 and that just leaves me with so little time to study, and I am going to need A LOT...I am starting my Junior year of college...

Answer 1

Its simple - get a job or student loan to pay for a place or deal with it.  You do not have any other options.  If you are so busy and can't work, then you should not really have to deal with them

Answer 2

You don't need an argument.  You are legally an adult and you can leave any time you wish as long as you can afford rent, utilities and food.

Answer 3

Well then move out..its not that hard.Get a job, or if your going to college look for dorms.

Answer 4

Start looking for an apartment or a roommate.

Answer 5

The benefits of you moving out is having peace of mind for them, and you are able to learn better, focus on your schooling more. You are an adult, they need to recognize that. Possibly you could get a job at the school, check that out. Also, see if there are any families by the college that would be interested in sponsoring a student, you never know unless you check it out. Your views are different simply because you are of different generations. The generation before you or twice before you was much different than now. Point out that you need to learn how to support yourself, how to live as an adult, not a protected child. Explain that you love them, but the arguing really needs to end. They will never see things as  you do. You all need to agree to disagree. You need to respect their views and they yours. Its tough when you are grown and in school with hassling going on at home. Check into the businesses close to the school, maybe that 5 hours can be put into a part time job. Studying and working is no easy task, but millions of young people do it. Write a list - pros and cons. You know your situation better than we do, use a little psychology, you will come up with things - good luck, if you are diligent in your ways, you will find something that fits your needs.

Answer 6

My daughter starts college in the fall and we went for orientation where they told the parents it is integral for the student to become involved on campuss - join organizations, make friends, etc.  They highly encouraged students to live on campus and not commute.  Talk to one of the counselors at your college and get some literature and statistics that show this.  Show it to your Aunt and Uncle.  Be honest with them that you're almost 21 years old and it's high time that you leave the nest.  Having an adult conversation with them without getting emotional is a great way to prove that you're mature enough to handle it.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Don't be so ungrateful with your Uncle and Aunt...You should thank them for having you live with them and not have to worry about paying anything...

Keep going to school and when you have a Job and when you're ready, Move Out !