Help Me Im Not Confident =[

Question

i am not very confident, how can i get over this??? i dont like eating in front of people, i get very fidgety when im in public, and i always have to be doing something whn im in public, also my eyes tend to water alot when there are people around, please help

Answer 1

It's not that you're not confident, it's that your shy :] It's ok, I'm very shy too. I don't believe the eye watering has anything to do with your shyness or confidence. If this becomes an issue, you can always call your doctor and chat with him about this.

Answer 2

Alright, this sounds strange, but just *pretend* that you are everything you want to be.

I used to be be pretty shy, with low self-esteem and I didn't talk to strangers very well,

I got sick of it,

and started pretending that I was a confident, outgoing person and I just talked. it was difficult at first, but it gets easier,

and fairly soon, it started being true!

Actually, at one point, I was overdoing it and I was actually called arrogant. That was a shock!

I still am a bit shy and have lower self-esteem than I'd like, but because I pretend and act like I am what I want to be, I'm slowly becoming that.

I know, sounds fake/weird, but just try it, even for a week, it works!

Answer 3

The way to overcome your fears is to face them.  Show them who's the boss -- Well, you're the boss.

The more you eat in front of people, over time, the more you'll realize that it's silly to be afraid; you'll eventually become more confident.

The more you go out in public, over time, the less anxiety you'll feel.

Practice makes perfect, as the saying goes.

If you do all of the this and your apparent shyness is still an issue, you can always call your doctor for help.

Answer 4

workout, go out alot with friends and eventually you will stop caring about what people think

Answer 5

So you always eat alone for your whole life. You are need help . for the most of your life you have not eaten in front of people. Condidence has noughing to do with it

Answer 6

i think ur shy...

just don't think what others might think of u,

just be urself,

act the way u wan to act

Answer 7

Just stop taking you and everyone around you so seriously. What's the worst that can happen or anyone can say? And even so, why should you care? As cliche as it sounds, be yourself. The rest will come into place. I was like that too, and now I'm extremely outgoing. Take small steps, and good luck!

Answer 8

i'm sure you're confident. you just did this: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 9

get a shrink, and I'm serious he will help u get over ur problems

Answer 10

Look at yourself in the mirror. Carefully, think of the things that you like about yourself. For instance, if you like the way your hair looks, always think about your hair in public. This will act as a distraction so your mind won't wander.

Answer 11

its something you have to work on urself

try new things

eat in front of people and soon u'll be fine with iit

Answer 12

well why is it that you aren't confident?  I know my problme was that i didn't like the way i looked.  So if that is why then just try and fix yourself up, thats what i did and now i am confident =]

Answer 13

omg i have social phobia too. what i really hate about the fact that i have social phobia is school. the lunchroom is like h**l for me because the tables are just lined up row after row. no corners. no where to hide. im just totally exposed. its a horrible feeling. and to make it even worse there are lunch aids on each side on eveery table. EVERY TABLE. and on the walls. ALL FOUR SIDES OF THE WALLS. they are just standing there. WATCHING. and im usually in a really big class so my lunch table is always full. full on both sides. everyone is just face to face sitting and eating. no where to turn around and look. and its like everytime i look up, the person right in front of me gives me a dirty look because im looking at them. where else am i suppose to look?!!!!! the table is full on both freaking sides! where am i suppose to look?!!!!!!!!!!! i cant even look up!!!!!! and walking in the hallways is h**l! everyone stares at me! im walking down the hallway right and theres a group of girls looking at me so i look back at them. they turn around and face the other way until i walk pass them. two seconds later i hear giggling!!!!!! and i know its about me. oh and its the same d**n situation with the train. I HATE TRAINS. HATE THEM. sometimes i wish i had quadruplet sisters so ill have my own little group to fight back. saddly... im the only child... im all alone. everyone i know always give me dirty looks. even my GRANDMA. i dont know why. im not wanted. at all... i should just give up.... i was on zoloft but then my grandma kept on telling my doctor "im doing better" and im "talking more" like wtf?! no im not! she wouldnt even let me talk either! and now the doctor believed her and they took me off the medication and therapy!!!!. now what? im sorry if this answer didnt help you but atleast i helped you by letting you know your not the only one... im sorry if this didnt  help. i hope it did though!

Answer 14

huh, Confedence isn't something that someone can teach you it's somethign that comes from yourself!!