Help Me Please!!! I really don't know what to do anymore... I really need someone to talk to ...?

Question

I'm a 20 year old college student, who has had a very painful past. (In short, I was abused, raped, I've attempted suicide a few times and I cut) I have a really hard time trusting people in the past (friends, family, mental health professionals etc.) but last year, for the first time, I met someone who I felt I could trust. She was a teacher in one of my courses. She helped me a lot, and offered to listen if I needed someone to talk to. At the moment, she's no longer my teacher, but I still really want to take her up on that offer to talk. We talk a little in the hallways at school, and via e-mail about random things, but I'd like to talk to her the way I did last year (when she offered to listen if I needed someone). I just don't know how to approach her about it, is it weird/wrong/awkward for me to re-bring this up now? I've tried little things to try to get her to initiate a "non-random" conversation but they haven't worked. I really feel like talking to her is the best thing for me, but I just don't know how to do it... please someone help... I'm not doing well right now, and really need to talk to her... I just don't know what to do...

(By the Way, I am seeing both a counsellor and a psychiatrist for professional help, however it is not that I am seeking from my teacher)

Answer 1

Send her an e-mail if that is easier then bringing it up face to face. Chances are if she was willing to listen to you when you were her student that she does care about your well being and would still be willing to listen. Just tell her that talking to her really helped and if she wouldn't mind, you would like to be able to still do that. Even if it is just through e-mail (if that is all she has time for) it would still be good for you.  

Answer 2

just try and talk to her. hopefully she'll understand.  

Answer 3

sorry your having a bad time. perhaps if you still email each other,you could open up as to whats going on with you to her that way. What does your psychiatrist say about you talking to her. do you have a family member you could go to. how about your mom or a aunt or sister. somtimes the family that loves you wants to be there for you but dont know how to ask if you need somthing .  Remember God loves you and is always there for you and he only wants the best for you.  The fact that you want to reach out to someone shows you have wisdom and an inner strength.  Dont give up on yourself you have had a lot to deal with at such a young age and my heart goes out to you but the past is behind you and your future is the best yet to come. Good luck in your college classes , love yourself and be good to yourself for your a very special person with alot of potential you've proved that by comeing this far.  May God bless and your in my prayers

Answer 4

Don't take this the wrong way but sometime people don't want to hear about others problems over and over again and that is why we have therapists and mental health professionals to talk to.   I am not trying to be mean but I have lost many friends who I've tried to make into therapists it is not appropriate and eventually those people will shy away from you.  Talk to a therapist they are there to listen and give you the best support and help you with important decisions.

Answer 5

Can u enroll in another of her courses.  Or ask her if she does any tuition or maybe leave her a note in her pigeon hole (marked Private & (Confidential) and ask her if you could meet for a coffee as you have a problem and she helped so much last time.  She can only say yes or no or even maybe she know some else who can help.  Seeing she sort of knows you.  If you don't give it a go you'll always wonder.  

Answer 6

i've been where you are, many times. i just started therapy last year again b/c of major depression from being chronically ill w/ a bunch of stuff (i'm 25) but i've been depressed for 10 years now and i used to cut too. try sending her an e-mail explaining your situation and if that doesn't work, talk to me if you want. most of the time a stranger can offer an excellent point of view.  

Answer 7

I say send her a card, or flowers and thank her for her advices, that open the conversation. I then asks her if we can remain friend so I can really shared my problems with someone I can trusts, and that person is you if she an understanding teacher she,ll help you no matter what the situation is. I,m really sorry about your past experience. I know what your going through so if you want supports Email me. [e-mail] sweety your not alone.