Help! My 2yr old son?

Question

likes to hit, push, bite and yell ! What should I do? I've tried talking to him nicely..I don't hit him or anything and he has all the attention he needs..so i don't know what could be making him act like that. Is that a normal behavior?

Answer 1

I had serious problems with behavior with my autistic son and bipolar daughter.  It was not at all nice around our house.  Their psychiatrist suggested I read a book called "123 Magic"  I don't remember who wrote it but you can find it at Amazon if you are interested.  Anyway, it is a very easy and systematic discipline system that works fast, is easy to implement, and does not involve any sort of physical punishment.  It works for kids as young a 2 up to about age 12 (but it still works on my 15 year old)

I have to say that I doubted that it would make any difference but within days the difference was huge.  He stopped biting and hitting, and WHINING.  I hate whining.  The book is pretty cheap so you might even find a copy at your local library.  It really worked for us.  Good luck!

Answer 2

It is normal but you  probably will want him to stop. It always helps to play a game called the quiet game. In the quiet game everyone playing has to be quiet, and if they make any sound, then they are out. if your son is quiet and calm, reward him with a small treat to show him that good behavior has its rewards.

Hope that helps!

Answer 3

not normal.  Give him a time out whenever he does the behavior.

Answer 4

nope its just hes spolied........ time out or tell him noo.. and stuff

Answer 5

I had an issue with my son acting out in negative ways to get attention. It got to a point that I actually made an appointment and took him to his Pediatrician about it. The Doctor told me that ANY anti-social behavior should be dealt with by saying:

"Obviously you're not feeling well" and ISOLATION away from everyone else, in his room ALONE for (in your case) 2 minutes, because your boy is 2 years old. (VERY IMPORTANT) it's not that your son (and mine) are "Bad"...it is that their BEHAVIOR is UNACCEPTABLE. Your boy isn't a "bad" boy, just his behavior needs to be more socially acceptable and modified into parameters that YOU establish. YOU are responsible to teach him.

When the time minutes is up, you simply ask "are you feeling better now?" If the answer is NO and he is still exhibiting negative behavior, another 2 minutes until he decides to stop. I laughingly told the doctor that my boy would be spending alot of time in his room, (and so will yours) and the Doctor said that that was OK. NO ONE, especially a child, wants to be alone.

My son did spend a lot of time isolated in the early days, BUT HE LEARNED VERY QUICKLY that his negative behavior was unacceptable and would not be tolerated. He also had an issue of throwing things in anger, and learned very quickly that ANYTHING that was thrown in anger was THROWN AWAY in the big black container that the trash man takes. GONE FOREVER.

Be firm. Remain ***unemotional*** during this. These are HIS BAD "CHOICES" (he is NOT A "BAD BOY") so the punishment and the consequences are on him. MAKE HIM RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS = A gift that will last a lifetime. It's hard, but his behavior will be modified quickly and your life will be much better.

Email me if you'd like to.

Susan

Answer 6

Welcome to the wonderful world of terrible twos, and know exactly what you are talking about...you need to discipline him.  When my son does all that stuff, I put him in time out, then I will tell him why he was there, and tell him to apologize for his actions....I do it atleast 50 times a day, but eventually he will get the concept that it's not acceptable.  Everbody who has a two year old goes through the same thing, and if not they are the lucky one in a million.  Terrible twos...they test us to see what they can get away with.  Good Luck...