Help My boyfriend of 7 years wont listen

Question

I just found out my mother is sick and I want to be there with her and for her but she lives in Arizona and I live in Florida,I have a boyfriend of 7 years now and also have a child with him who is 5.

I told him I wanted to move out to Arizona to be with my mother because we are very close.Well he is telling me to GO just bring his child and go,He will not even consider going out there with me,I told him I was here for him when his father got sick and now its his turn to be with me.I don't want to take my son away from his father but I really wanna be with my mother in case something was to happen I have been away from my family for the whole 7 years and had stuck by this man and his family who hes not even close with.

Now the thing that gets me is he tells me to go and that he will be here for me when ever it is that I get back but then turns around and tells me if I go then dont come back because he dont do long distance relationships.

What is a girl to do???

any advice?

Answer 1

If he was worth keeping around, he'd go. I'd follow my girlfriend into h**l, and I'm going on not even 3 years. We moved to Colorado a couple years back. My son was born in CO, and she got homesick. We moved back two and a half weeks after our son was born. I didn't want to go, but given the choice between alone out there and with her here, I chose here.

There's always the chance that if you say you're going, he might change his tune. Don't count on it though, since there's no guarantees.

Answer 2

How can you not know what to do?  Do you not have any self-respect?  You think it's okay for him not to be supportive of you and your family?  Grow up.

Answer 3

DO NOT STAY THERE FOR YOUR BOYFRIEND!!!!! I won't tell you what to do regarding him (I know I would dump his *** - for me, that is a serious "deal breaker") but how would you feel if you stayed and your mother died and you never got to see her? Not only would you regret it and beat yourself up over it, but you would (consiously or unconsiously) blame him and resent him, which would eat away at your relationship.  

Answer 4

u have to choose which one is more important to u I know ur family is but if u go then u lose ur boyfriend but u will always have ur family why don't u try writing them and see what's going on  

Answer 5

I think if you don't go to look after your mother, you could regret it for the rest of your life.

If your boyfriend won't support you, then is that really the sort of person you want in your life?

Answer 6

if your mom is seriously sick you need to go be with her. if its not that serious then weigh your options. family first and if people cant feel that then fu*k em'.