Help - My ex and his new wife are abusing me online?

Question

Help.

I am continually having c**p posted indirectly about me on the internet both on myspace, and on an online computer game called secondlife. My ex met his new spouse online there. They have continually posted nasty stuff about me, that I am an evil troll, heartless b**ch, not worthy and not a woman. They are not directly saying my name but the meaning is definitely there. I have saved screen shots of when they posted a profile on myspace claiming they will expose the truth about me to everyone and let them decide who is lying and who is the evil b**ch. I am so sick of this abuse but I dont know if the law can do anything about it. Without them directly mentioning my name I dont know if there is anything I can do.

Someone please help.

I do not visit teh same sites they are on. I am receiving messages from people telling me that they see their profiles and that I am this evil person. I don't go looking for them.

There must be some sort of law against verbal abuse?? A few of my real freinds have asked them to remove this c**p and they refuse citing, it is about time someone knew the "truth"

I am looking for advice on how to get them to stop. Please no abusive comments, I have heard enough already from them.

Answer 1

You do need proof, but as you say without them naming you you cant do them for slander.

I know that you recognise yourself in what they are saying but not everyone online knows you so dont panic.

You are feeding their desire to do this so ignore it, your best friends will know and ignore it too.

There is an old saying and it goes like this - the show cant go on without an audience - think about it.,

They are immature and sound like they deserve each other.

Move on and stay offline for a while.

Answer 2

It's called harassment by communication. I'm going through the same thing with my fiance's ex wife. What a woman she is. The things they post on myspace is beyond anything I've seen. Those women have issues, not you or I. I assure you. Tell your friends NOT to repeat what they saw.

If you want to start this process, you must finish it. It will take about 3 months tho. Document everything. If they are only doing it online, you can avoid the harassment by not going, however, continue to screen shot and save. Take it all down to your local attorney's office. They may need more information, such as who she is, where she lives, etc. But after some time, they 'will' do something.

I was thankfully, able to obtain a warrant for my fiance's ex wife. It sucks not to be able to EVER go back into another state...lol But that's what she gets. They will grow up one day. Evil you say too, well come on now. If you're not stooping to her level, she's only posting more and more b/c she's not getting a reaction out of you.

You can also change your name on your myspace....your location....your email....make it harder for her to find you and harass you on there. Granted she will still post stuff up there, but at least she won't be able to look at your private page any longer.

Answer 3

People can be so mean.  I'm sure on those sites like Myspace and Secondlife you are able to contact the "moderators" if that's what they are called and report the individuals profiles have you tried that?  Because they are harassing you.  Good luck I hope you get it resolved.

Answer 4

It is called defamation of character...

Unless they are saying your name and posting pictures, it may be hard to file a civil suit against them on this.

Just continue to gather your evidence.

Keep in mind - it doesn't matter what people say. If you know they are lies, that is all that really matters.

Good luck.

Answer 5

You poor thing.  I really don't know how to help you but you can go to this website: www.cyberbullying.org.  It might help, but if it doesn't, stay strong.  

Answer 6

I don't think there is anything you can do, sense they don't use your name.

Just ask those friends who come running to gossip, that you really don't need to hear it any more.   Let them see your the bigger person.

Answer 7

Consider the source.  Let it go. And let God.

I've actually had people do this to me at church. Yeah church.  I considered the source.  I ended up telling people who tried to tell me that I wasn't interested, didn't want to hear it, and to not repeat it. Easier said than done.  I know.  But really, who cares.

As long as these people get a rise/reaction out of you they have won. (in their minds)  Remember, your ex is just that, your ex.  You have no reason to have anything to do with him or the bimbo he married.  She'll get hers.

If you still can't let it go then print up what is being said, call a lawyer and get some legal advise.

Answer 8

Shut off your computer?  Sounds like a freakfest to me!

Just live your life in the real world and you will be fine:)

Answer 9

Oh, well. I guess it's time for you to grow up. Adults don't worry about what's posted on game sites and myspace.  

Answer 10

Yeah, stop going on their web sites.  

Answer 11

Beat them at their own game. Make up another Id and account on myspace and use a s**y photo of someone else, make up a cool profile and send out invites to his name. He will definitely bite on it. Slowly seduce him on line and set him up. You can play as dirty as they can and not be caught. Have fun.

Answer 12

Do you have children with him?  If not, cease all contact with him whatsoever.. there is no reason for you to even sneeze out his name. :)

You shouldn't have to go through the slander, but you need to keep in mind that most likely if they're not mentioning your name than other people don't know who you are anyway, so it's not so bad.  Besides, if someone is going to judge you based on something they read on the internet posted by an angry ex, than they're not someone you should want to be a part of your life, anyway.

If you do have children with him, cease all contact unless it's about the kids.  You don't need to be cordial and friendly, just civil.

Either way, stay off the internet and please inform people who are giving you all this information to stop -- unless it's urgent or over the line -- because it's stressing you out and you really don't need to hear about it anyway.

Good luck!

Answer 13

I am not sure if there is any legal recourse for you or not, but many site admins don't like having the kind of stuff you've described on their forum. You could try writing to them to see if they will remove it. Though you may have to constantly watch for new posts to report. My advise would be to ignore them. If you have mutual friends with them, if they bring it up let them know that you don't care what they do (without demonstrating that it is getting to you). Once they realize that you don't care they should stop after a while. The idea here is that you are ignoring it, so posting that you don't, directly calling them, or bringing up the subject will work against you - you have to completely ignore them.

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