Help! My little girl is a bully!?

Question

I have 3 kids, 14 year old boy, good kid, 8 year old daughter, sweetheart, but my 10 year old daughter is so out of control, she is driving us all crazy! She is a beautiful girl, big brown eyes, golden ringlets for hair, but, she is a bully! I have tried every form of punishment possible, but, nothing seems to work. As she is very headstrong, and independent. She seems to think she is my boss, and tries to tell me what to do. Grounding does not help, don't like to hit her, but, that does not help, either, she hits me back. She has most of the children we live around afraid of her. I don't understand this, as she is really a small girl. I think the strength of her mind, and she is strong minded, scares other children. She also rules over my little one, and makes her be her maid, my little one is afraid of her older sis. I am tired of other parents coming over to my home to complain about her actions, and feel bad. I am at my witts end, and have no idea what to do? She embarrases me so.

Answer 1

http://www.pacer.org/parent/php/PHP-c109...

here is a link to a page that might help you

Answer 2

Anger Managment.... if that doesn't work scream at her as loud as you can she will stop sooner or later.

Answer 3

enroll her in some counceling or therapy.. i know it sounds horrible, but it should help...

also, many parents make the mistake of being too passive with misbehaved kids, and the kids start to think they control mom and dad, and everyone else. show her who's boss, and don't be afraid to punish her, do whatever it takes to get her to mind.

and if that doesn't work, call supernanny lol

Answer 4

Show her who the real bully is.

Answer 5

SHOW HER WHO IS THE BOSS AROUND HERE. IF SHE HITS YOU BACK, SPANK HER. SPANK TILL SHE CRIES, CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS, I KNOW IT HURTS BUT HEY, IT HELPS ON THE LONG RUN. OFF THE TV, SHOW THE CANE, LET YOUR HUSBAND DO THE CANING AS WELL. AFTER SHOWING WHO IS THE BOSS AROUND HER, EXPLAIN TO HER WHY ARE YOU PUNISHING HER IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Answer 6

Tell her if she doesnt stop being a brat youre gonna send her away. or you can get her in therapy, clearly she has issues.

Answer 7

I know exactly what you mean. We have one of those children in our family and she is nearly 12. She has been diagnosed with severe bipolar disorder. your daughters symptoms sound just like my sister's, almost exactly. I would take her to a psychiatrist to be diagnosed. Im sure this is the answer.

Answer 8

get the dog whisperer just like when southpark cartmen drove

all his nannys nuts.

Answer 9

Whoop her a**. No just with your hand, with a belt. If that doesn't work, use a fly swatter. If that doesn't work, use an extenuation cord. I wouldn't recommend the extenuation cord at this age, though. If you're in public, take her hard-headed a** to a bathroom and wear her out.

Answer 10

strip her of EVERYTHING but matteress and blankets and then make her earn it back for good behaviour. No special treats, in bed at 7 pm everynight. No parties, no people over. Make life hard for her and she will soon come around

Answer 11

sit down and talk with her and let her know this type of behavior is inappropriate. Start locking her in her room everytime she misbehaves....seriously use force if you have to....if you don't do anything now, she'll be in jail sooner or later

Answer 12

I think you should be consistent with the punishment. She is too old for being in a time-out. try making her sitting down and write sentences. Every time she does hit, make sure you double the amount of the sentences she writes. If she refuse to write, make her sit there til she write. If it doesn't work, take her privileges away for a very long time or tell her that you will go to her teacher and discuss this matter with her to be sure that she doesn't do it in school. It doesn't sound related but it will make her feel nervous enough to not doing it because she may not be a bully at school.

If nothing works, be sure to take her to the doctor because she may have some issue. It's better to get her diagnose by the pediatric psychiatist.

Answer 13

She is entering puberty.   Grounding never works.  I refuse to use that form of "discipline".  I suggest behavior/priviliges/praise.  Set rules for all of the children.  The privlieges are television, video games, computer etc.  No television or computers in bedrooms.  Limit time with the privliges and monitor the time.  When they behave they earn their priviliges.  When they behave give them praise.  When they disobey let them know how disappointed you are but don't make a major issue of it.   As for you're embarassment...that's on you, not your child.  I suggest you read up on puberty and possibly get a bit of family counseling, sounds as if she is picking up on your feelings.

Answer 14

talk to her

Answer 15

Try going to a child physchiatrist. I'm sure there are books on the subject. But think of the positive, at least she's not letting others run all over her.