Help!!! My mom is wayyy to involved i need help!!?

Question

So this year I am going into 7th grade. I have one sister no lock on my door and not a lot of privacy at all, so although school is not my favorite, I enjoy my tiny drop of school freedom. So this year I made it into student leadership and although i wasn't thrilled with my "honor" I was kind of happy i had made it in. About 7 months ago my mom asked to be the dance coordinator, which means she will help plan with the leadership class, attend every dance, and hang out around school. Today at orientation she came and embarrassed the heck out of me with little jokes about me and unnecessary things she told to the class. This devested me so much when we got home I screamed at her and told her i hated her. I need to make this right but she needs to back off. Help please???

Answer 1

tell her your sorry and seriously mean it and do something nice for her just to make her feel better , then when she's calm and relaxed tell her how you feel and say mom please you are embarassing me but say it a little nicer , lol

Answer 2

More than likely your mom is just trying to insert herself into your life. Many parents love to help make things nicer for their kids by helping out in ways that affect their kids. So it is not that she is being nosy, she is just trying to make sure that school functions, etc go perfectly for you and your class.

Sit her down and first tell her that you are sorry for telling her you hate her and yelling at her. Then explain to her that you appreciate how she helps with school functions, etc. but tell her that you don't like her talking about you or embarrassing you in front of your peers. Tell her you know she didn't mean to embarrass you but she did.

Just try talking to her and try to look at everything from her point of view. AND remember, you should never talk to your mom in a way you wouldn't appreciate her talking to you.

You have taught me something as a mom. Perhaps I too should give my little princess ( who is not so little anymore ) space too. :)

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Okay....so the thing is we all have parents who irritate us, and do unnecessary things but the key is and what people don't understand is, that they really don't think their doing anything wrong, or that what they did wasn't embarrassing until they hear it from you and see you turn red. So what you have to do is sit and talk to her and let her know that. Yelling at her and telling her you hate her wasn't right, because she probably thought she had done anything wrong. Shes only human, so first you need to apologize because I know you dont hate your mother, hate is such a strong word. Then you should let her know that hey, its okay to want to be involved and be funny, but dnt make me your puchline. Let her know that you dont appreciate her letting everyone into your private life. Switch it around and let her know that hey mom you wouldnt like it if I went in front of all your friends and let them know private things about you ( and give her examples). Let her know how u feel. Dnt hold back but dnt direspect her by yelling either.  

Answer 4

talk to her and tell her that school is the only time when you have some privacy and freedom without her or your dad or any of your sibling and tell her that you dont really want her to be at school and help around cause its not fair that shes to involved and shes taking your "social time" from you and tell her that its not that coool to have you mom at school when your in 7th grade that it wass fine when you where in 2nd grade but not now

Answer 5

ok that is a little involved but she only does it because she cares. dont let it get in your way. talk to your mom maturely and ask for a little more freedom because you are getting older and more responsible and you arent a baby anymore and ask for a lock on your door because every person needs that, and tell her not to tell anybody anything that might embarrass you because u are a human that cant be embarrassed by your mom, etc....

so yeah maybe she will loosen up a little. act mature and you will get thorugh to people!!! good luck!! :)

Answer 6

Write her a letter and explain everything. Give it to her at a time wen she can read it alone, undistracted and absorb it all.

Explain how you love her a lot but that she really hurt you, and embarassed you, and that you need some space and to get away from the ''nest''.....tell her you would like her to give u space at school to get the maximum benefits of school life and that you cant handle her being there all the time...and that you were heartbroken to see that she cud humiliate you in front of your peers.

Answer 7

First of all, take the 'I hate you' back. You never say that to another human being, especially not your mother. And then, tell her how embarassed you felt when she was there and that was why you reacted the way you did. Then you ask her to stop the joking around and hope she is better next time. If she isn't, you have to ask her to remove herself from her position because she is making you suffer.

Answer 8

Now that you have calmed down.  Write you mom a letter.  Start off telling her you love her.  Then move on to the fact that school time is your time. Let her know you are proud of her volunteering but it would be best if she acted like a teacher and not a mother.  That her actions toward you were embarrassing and if it happens again you will quit the leadership class.  

Answer 9

tell her nice as you can and in private how you feel . yes you do need your freedom but remember it was a short short time ago you were young , ask this same Qs at 34 as I am then  compain , moms are moms LOVE US !! ( HUG) Hang in all your friends have moms some arent as loving as yours . some kids would want that  

Answer 10

You know, it could be a lot worse. You could have a mother who is so busy having her own life that she's not interested in yours. Yes, I know that you want some privacy and that you don't want mom around to embarrass you, but the bottom line is she loves you and she thinks she's doing the right thing by being involved at your school.

I say you compromise with her. Support her involvment in your life, but ask her to refrain from making embarrassing comments or sharing "stories" about you. Then you both win. She has a daughter who supports her and you have a mom who doesn't embarrass you.

And tell her you're sorry.

Answer 11

Apologize to her, let her know you were wrong to yell, but you did not like the jokes she told about you.  Let her know that embarrassed you and you would like for her to back of a bit.