Help! My mother-in-law lives with us, how can we get her to move out?

Question

My mother-in-law has lived with us for over 4 years and I am too the point either she goes or I do! She is a widow and her son, my husband is an only child. She is a terrible hypochondriac, and we all know it. I think a lot of it is to make her son feel sorry for her so he will never make her move out. She is so nosey and in our business all the time. I cant even check the mail because she tries to be the first one to get it every day just so she can see what we get in the mailbox. I think she is abnormally obsessed with her son. My husband knows how I feel and he agrees with me, but he does not want to kick her out because it would hurt her feelings. I am about to break.....Please......how can we get her to move out?

Answer 1

Go get a apartment she would be able to afford get a month lease on it, a blow up bed or what not and move in over there until your husband tells her that he wants you living with him and the only way that will happen is if his mom leaves, point blank don't tell him just do it, that way she already has a place to go out of your house easy switch i hope.

Answer 2

Well you and your hubby needs to have talk about his mother living with you all. Is she living with you because of financial reasons or  she just wants to live with her son or does she have some serious health problems/old age? If she's only staying with you simply because she wants to be close to her son, then you guys can convince her to move some where closer to your house. Let your hubby be the one to convince her that she needs to move out or else she will probably get on your case.

Answer 3

Your husband has to man up and tell her.  You and your husband need to figure out a date or time she has to moved out.

Maybe she can go into subsidized housing.  They base the rent by a persons income.

You could have all of your mail sent to a P.O. Box.

Answer 4

Tell her you were looking thru the ads and saw apartments for rent and you think it would be good for her to get out on her own so you all could have some privacy.  

Answer 5

If I were in your shoes. I would tell my spouse that we need to have a serious talk and I would let them know how I was felling. I would not put up with it personally, I would kick her *** out of my house.

Answer 6

Look for an apartment in a seniors apartment building so she is surrounded by people her own age. They have lots of activities to keep em entertained. good luck!

Answer 7

Well u wait til she goes to the coffee shop or goes somewhere for a few hours and then you run like h**l to get new door k***s and change the locks on the house, then you can leave for a day or so and that should be A huge Settled hint???lol

Answer 8

Why don't you talk to her and tell her to move out?

Answer 9

Perhaps she would understand if you told her that your marriage is being effected and that you and your husband need a house to yourself. Maybe you can find a different house with a mother-in-law apartment or small house in back so she can be close but not share your living quarters. She also should be encouraged to develop some interests such as church groups, reading clubs, whatever...

good luck to you.

Handle this with care because how he treats his mom is a good indicator of how he will treat you someday.