Help? My sister's preggerss and my parents are having a cow.?

Question

My mom laid in bed and cried all day when my sister told her she was preggers and she's not married and the guy she's having the baby with doesn't want to marry her. My mom is depressed and my dad is very disapointed. We are supposed to keep it a secret. Mom doesn't want anyone to know and dad is trying to figure out what to tell people when they see a child. They are going to tell ppl they took in a foster child from China only there's one problem b/c the kid is not going to be chinese.

Answer 1

It's a bad situation, but things could be a thousand times worse.  Your parents need to stop being so selfish, that's right I said selfish and realize that it's not about them anymore.  It's about your sister and the new life that's about to come into this world.  She needs their support and their love right now more than she ever has, and she doesn't need for them to worry about "what the neighbors will think".  She and the baby should be their priority.  your mother needs to stop feeling sorry for herself and your father needs to get a grip on reality.  They need to realize that this is the 21st century and although things are going to be hard for your sister she can do this.  Women have been raising children alone for a long time.  She could be on drugs or an alcoholic, she's neither of those things.  Her life just stepped off the beat-ten path a little.  Now she has to make the best of things.  Life has to go on.

Answer 2

My parents did the same thing...just give it some time.

Answer 3

it may take some time for your parents to adjust to the news but in time they will be okay i'm sure. when i was pregnant with my first baby i was a senior in high school and unmarried with no intention on getting married at that point (at least not to that guy). My mom was disappointed but accepted it fairly quickly. my dad was furious and refused to talk to me or to see me or anything (my parents were divorced) and he said the only way he would ever have anything to do with me again was if i got an abortion. well, i didn't get an abortion and i gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and when he had heard that i had the baby he changed his whole mindset and asked for me to come over and let him see his grand baby (it was his first grandchild) and i did and he just fell in love with her. everything will work out for your family, it just needs time. your sister will probably really need you to be her friend right now though until things do settle down. best of luck to you!

Answer 4

hey, i have a teen kid and as much as i hope it never happens to me, we need to prepare ourselves.

your parents should have done their job preparing your sister for when she became sexually active. but they didnt apparently and they baby will be here soon. what is done is done..your sis needs their support now more than ever. its not time for depression or embarrasment , but its time to pull together as a family and be there for her. tell your mom to get out of bed and tell your dad that in reality ppl dont give a **** about her being married or not. who knows? she can be a perfect mom and be there for her kid at all times.

you dont necessarily need a husband to raise a kid. it would be the ideal situation, but its not always reality....

your parents are being selfish and thinking about themselves..they need to grow up and see that they have a daughter that needs them,,

ive them my email address if you want,,

Answer 5

I'm sure they'll get used to it eventually.

It's just a big shock for them right now.

And why does he have to say it's from China?

Why not say it's from the U.S. so it doesn't look suspicious.

But personally, I think they should tell the truth. Who cares what other people think.

Answer 6

yep,cannot pretend  that the child will be chineese,it is out of question,but they could say the child has been adopted from a close relative which is ...the truth in fact. Good luck to all of you.

Answer 7

How old is your sister?

That's too bad.  :-(

Answer 8

Is it because she is underaged? If so then that is why they are being that way.

Answer 9

They need to shut up and just be support of their daughter and the INNOCENT child growing inside of her. She made a mistake. But it's not the end of the world. She just has to step up to the plate now. But parents are suppose to be supportive. All of you guys really need to be there for her. I'm sure it's not the easiest thing for her either. Just give her a break and get her into the doctor so she and the baby are safe and healthy!

Answer 10

And so in order to keep it all confidential, you broadcast it on the internet.  

Why don't you video tape your mom crying in bed, and put it on YouTube..... you can get better coverage there I am sure.

At some point in their lives, your parents will learn to accept this child as their grand child and all will be right in the world again....

However don't expect to go out on a date until your are 35....

Answer 11

They will get over it eventually. and if they really say it is a foster child from china that will be highly f*cked up!!! It's your sister's baby! It's their Granchild!!!! But they will get over it soon enough i hope[for you and your sister's sake,and of course the baby's sake!]

Answer 12

dapiek lose the attitude the the girl is worried plus for one she just want an answer not attitude and they could say they adopted it from a different state not china lol cause that would make no sense and when your sister gets bigger your parents are gonna have to realize people know by then

Answer 13

they probably feel like she is underage and they are dissapointed in her right now   but it will pass and they will support her more

Answer 14

You all should be honest with people and tell them the truth, no matter how hard it is.

This isn't about REPUTATION , it's about your sister having a healthy child and being a responsible parent!

It's not the end of the world just because she became

pregnant! This happens all the time!

It would be ridiculous to lie about it, there is nothing for her to be ashamed of!

I hope everything turns out ok! Good luck to all of you! =D

Answer 15

are you American? sorry for the seemingly nasty q but i live in England and i had a kid when i was 16 and although my mother wasn't happy she'd never think of saying my  daughter isn't mine. how old is your sister, if she's under 18 i can understand (legal age is 16 here( but still it wont be fair taking away the privilege of being a mum, its becoming more and more popular having children out of wed lock now as weddings are expensive and if you get married just because you're pregnant your more likely to divorce. at the end of the day the decision is your sisters, i hope everything goes well.

Answer 16

Instead of worrying about what other people think, they should be helping your sister. If they had been decent parents to begin with this wouldn't have happened.