Help Our Relationship Please! I Love Her!?

Question

Ok, my girlfriend/ later to be baby's mother, is telling me she does not want to be with me for stuff that has happened either way before we had gotten together, a long time ago, or my ex lying to her. She started saying this right after she had found out she was pregnant with our baby we have been trying for for a few months... we are as of now not together =( But i really am not liking this and I need to know, what can i do to try and help the situation. I have done everything I can think of... Please help me, i do not want to lose her for good. She was really my first love, and i just realized that. I want our family together...

Answer 1

Honest communication that leads to mutual respect and mutual trust is the best foundation to build a relationship on.  Start with that - honesty & a desire to understand the relationship from her perspective, a desire to bring things to a place where she is comfortable & happy in the relationship.  She, of course, eventually, needs to do the same in return, while you continue to do so, or the relationship will not be satisfying for you, either.