Help!! Parents and teen pregnancy?

Question

I told my parents i was pregnant about a month ago and they still aren't talking too me and i got kicked out by mom. She told me not to come back until i take care of the pregnancy in her mind is abortion which i am not doing. I am living with my boyfriend who is very supportive and his mom who is helping out alot i am currently in my first semester of college and i am 17 how can i get them too accept that i made a mistake but i am going to have this baby and raise her. they don't even know its a girl. My boyfriend is sticking by.

Answer 1

Maybe they will change their minds once the baby is here. It's hard to refuse your own grandchild.

Answer 2

I would just forget them. If your family doesn't make an effort to be in your life, why should you? It seems you have a new family now. And if they are supportive than let them be. Your mother sounds like how my father was, it took about a month for him to change his mind when he realized I would be out of his life for good.

Answer 3

I think you should have the baby, and prove to you're mom that you're good enough. It's all your decision and at least you got support from your boyfriends family.

Good Luck

Answer 4

i was 17 when i first got pregnant but i was states away from my parents when i told them lol. but in your situation you just need to give them time yes they are pissed off but you are their daughter and they love you. i would make a copy of the ultrasound and mail it to them just to let them know that you still are their daughter and you are still thinking of them. it is good that your BF is being so supportive and his mother as well. maybe if you talk to his mom and see if she can speak with your parents that may help break the ice.

so if you found out one month ago your pregnant you were 4 months then and now 5 months? the same thing happened to me i was clueless that i was pregannt for 4 months until i took a test lol kind of funny.

any who congrats and i really do hope things workout between your mom and you

Answer 5

they need to realize that they loved you before and they should still love you afterwards, regardless if you have a baby or not

Answer 6

just hang in there and i congradulate you for taking on your responsibilities..i know it is a hard road you choose but stay strong and if they want to be that way they will be the ones missing out on that wonderful baby and be thankful your man stuck around don't happen that often..and what ever you do don't give up on school or your dreams you can still do it baby or not.....i got pregnant at 16 although my mom was supportive and so were my boyfriends parents my dad  was going to throw him in jail and all that jazz...well we have been married for 11 years now and no we didn't get married because the baby he was almost 2 when we did we now have 3 kids....anyways my point is my dad finally got over his self and is a wonderful grandpa..i could go on and on but feel free to email me anytime you want if you want to talk hang in there..it's a rough road but a wonderfull one...

Answer 7

well i think once you have the baby they will understand the same thing happened to my boyfriends sister, after the baby was born they started talking to her and started to understand that it was a mistake that she had done but they could'nt do anything about it.and that is good that your not thinking of abortion. I wish you the best of luck!!

Answer 8

It's THEIR LOSS if they don't want to be supportive. I can't believe they can be that cruel - hugs to you and your boyfriend's mom for being kind! You guys can do this! It will turn out fine!

Answer 9

NO don't listen to the first answer. You should not get an abortion. Your parents are probably in shock and embarrassed about the abortion, but trust me they do love you, even if they don't show it. They will come around. YOu just need to give the time. Right now you should put them out of your mind, and focus on college. Worry about your furture and your baby. worrying about your parents is going to add stress that's the last thinkg you need. good luck. and you'll make it through. trust me. this isn't the worst thing that could hapen

Answer 10

If you have the baby you really need to ask yourself if you are going to be able to afford it!

You now need a place to live that is clean and safe for your child if your parents are kicking you out.  If you can provide this for your baby then do what you think is right.  If you can't provide, then i'd seriously consider delaying your pregancy till you are older and have lived your life a bit more.  Some people think abortion is terrible but we are just animals like rabbits and birds, we are no better than a fox or guineapig.  Far worse and inhumane things happen to animals than a carefully planned and executed abortion.  Put things in perspective.

Answer 11

I am sure your parents will come around.  I would try writing them a letter and telling them how much you love them and appreciate everything they have done for you, but ultimately this is your choice.

If you are 17 and already in college you are ahead of the curve so as long as you work very hard you will be able to provide a good life for your baby and your self.  Stay is school, hopefully your boyfriend and his mom can help watch the baby while you go to class and study.  Good Luck.

Answer 12

Well its good your boyfriend and his mom are supporting you. I think once you have the baby, and you take her to see them, even if they are not talking to you still take her over there, say this is your grandaughter, you can accept it or not, but she will ALWAYS be your grandaughter and there isn't anything you can do now.  think once they see her, and realize they can't change anything now, they will end up changing their mind.

Good luck and congrats on keeping her! Your life is going to totally change, for the better!

Answer 13

I'm so sorry that your mother has rejected you out of hand. I think all you can do is perhaps send her a letter explaining what you have chosen to do , why you have chosen to go down the path you are taking. Let her know how hurt you are by her rejection that you hope she can see her way to accepting her gran-daughter and your relationship with the babies father and that she can see that you are happy and well taken care of. Let her know that you love her and that she is a welcome part of yours and her grandchild's life whenever she chooses to be. Also include that you would like an explanation as to why she rejected you, because of your pregnancy. Let her know you are open to calm discussion about the situation any time she'd like to contact you. Send her photos and cards when the baby is born try as much as possible to keep the lines of communication open and realize that the problem is with her and perhaps her rigid religious beliefs and not with you and your daughter.

Good luck, we wish you well . Hope that your mum comes around eventually.  

Answer 14

I would get an abortion if I were you. It is definitely the best move for you. The baby will ruin your life. Since you cannot afford the baby you will be draining the system by getting welfare and government aid.

Plus the child will be messed up from being raised by teenagers.

Answer 15

Awwh poor you !! :(

Your parents are just plain stupid. You're over the age limit, you're allowed, so they're in the wrong, not you.

You haven't made a mistake in my opinion, don't listen to your parents if you don't agree with them, and good on you for having the baby :)

xxGood luckxx

Answer 16

I would be very frank with your parents. I would say "I am having this baby, with or without your help. If you choose to shun me during this pregnancy, then don't bother coming around after the baby is born.  The choice is yours.  I know you're not happy with this situation, but there is no turning back. I hope you'll do the right thing."