Help? Teacher?

Question

Hi...

Please don't call me names, but is it really that bad for a teacher of 22 to date a 16 year old girl? I'm so confused please help

Answer 1

As a teacher, all children should be seen as your children.  The laws about adults dating children are very specific.  The ones concerning teachers are even more stringent.   The bottom line is whether or not you see this child as a good reason to give up your career and possible freedom.  If you do, you need to seek psychological help.

Answer 2

It is definitely innapropriate for you two to be dating.  

This is going to sound cruel, but there is something wrong with you if you cannot have an adult relationship with someone your own age.  

If you are the teacher, then you are definitely in the wrong.  Seek some help and get out of a career that puts you in a position to be around teenage girls all day long.

Answer 3

You know the answer to that or else you would not have asked the ?

Answer 4

I think if you look around in the media you can see how society as a whole thinks about this matter.  Just the fact that you are posing this question shows you already have a good idea that it would be a bad idea.  Girls who are 16 do not yet have all the tools they need to make mature decisions on their own.  This is why we have laws to help protect them from situations like this.  My advice is to stay far away.  Your career could be over and you risk being in legal trouble.  The decision to move forward could ultimatley shape your future in a very bad way.

Answer 5

Yes, it's really bad.  It's illegal and immoral.

Answer 6

Uh . . . it's ILLEGAL!!!

Answer 7

I don't know what names to call you because I don't know if you're the promiscuous 16 year old or the amoral, predatory 22 year old teacher.

It has long been my belief as a teacher myself that 22 years olds are too young to be high school teachers.  They are too close in age to the students they teach.

When I first started teaching, I taught with a young man who was 24.  I was 27.  He was very attractive.  The girls at our high school were all over him.  They used to dress provocatively, hang around his class, write him anonymous love notes, wait by his car for him at the end of the day.  They were relentless.  They would offer to come over and cook him dinner, do his laundry, clean his house, etc.  He did not pursue any of them, but he wanted to.  In fact, he quit.  Some of these girls were so openly aggressive it was scary.

What's sad is that if he had given in and actually slept with one of those 17 year old hussies, HE would have been called a pervert and a child molester.  

He ended up quitting because he was afraid some girl would get mad about being rejected and say he raped her.

Poor guy.

Answer 8

I am a teacher, and won't call you names, but do you know how angry this makes me?  You supposed to be the mature adult in this situation.  You signed a contract stating that you would teach and protect your students, and if you choose to date one, you are ignoring everything that you have worked so hard for.  What are the chances that this relationship will work out?  Very slim.  She's 16, for goodness sakes, and she has her whole life before her.  Is she going to take you to prom or this fall's football games?  Can you go out on dates in town?  No, because there is too high of a risk of getting caught.  Even if you disregard the age, legal issues, and the fact that you can not only lose your job, but the right to ever teach again, a relationship in hiding is no relationship at all.  

You have a life to live, and if your relationship is exposed, your future is over.  Do you really want to be the subject of the next teacher-student news scandal?

Answer 9

im guessing your the teacher but im not going to say anything against you.

i personally think its a bad thing because the girl is 16

1 - if she gets turned down by people her own age she might not kno wot to do and she may like the teacher but not really know why

2 -  the age gap is fine if its a 20 year old girl onwards but when they are still in highschool or just leaving its really not fair on the girl

3 - is the teacher really better off with a 16 year old no matter how they feel about her

Answer 10

Yes.

Why can't the teacher find someone his own age?

And if there is intimate activity, he might be charged with rape of a minor.