Help! We are very careful about contraception but our condom split 6 weeks ago. ?

Question

I took emergency contraception within 12 hours but have now tested positive on 5 different tests. Does the Morning after pill take this long to work or do i have to face that against all the odds we have conceieved?

Although we are very much in love, we have not been together long enough for this (only 3 months). I am sure about him, but it's such early days and completely the wrong time. But we are not kids. I am 28 he is 32. I am dreading telling him and just hoping this is a mistake and i will have a period. I love him more than i've ever loved anyone but i have to accept he is probably going to want me to have an abortion, and this is something i feel strongly could not be 'right'. Does anyone have any advice? I will see him tomorrow night (when i happen to meet his parents for the first time) and i don;t know whether to tell him or wait.

Answer 1

the morning after pill is not 100% safe and as you have had 5 positives i would say you are pregnant, it is to soon in to a relationship but if you both love each other I'm sure he will be fine but its going to be a shock to him so just let it sink in and give him time to adjust to the situation, good luck x

Answer 2

he knows about the condom, your both grown adults, you have to tell him, make sure first, and then tell him the news, he is going to be excited, even though he might seem angry or scared, and you two have to decide on your relationship, whether you want to get together and raise a family, if you want to split and have him pay child support, or give the baby up for adoption, don't go into abortion, and just make sure you are pregnant first, you cannot hide a big belly for nine months, make sure first and tell him, You do the right thing.

Answer 3

It is possible. The Plan B pill doesn't remove anything, from what I understand it just keeps the fertilized egg from implanting, but if implantation has already occured then its just too late. Well if your bond is as strong as you say maybe he wont put the pressure of abortion on you. It is your decision in my mind, but think it through because people who have children even at the worst time in life never end up regretting it, but might have if they terminated their pregnancies.

5 tests is a lot to hope that they are just defective...make an appointment with your doctor and get checked out. Perhaps this is just a blessing in disguise :)

good luck! and stay strong !

Answer 4

At this point, if you are getting positives on your tests, you are pregnant.  I know it can be a surprise, especially if you took precautions.  But, as you know, non of these things guarantee that you won't end up pregnant.

This is going to kick-start your relationship into high gear.  I am hesitant to advise you to rush into anything, though.  Do not get married for the sake of not having a child out of wed-lock--you two have not been together long enough to make that choice.  Honestly, seeing how he reacts to the baby and impending fatherhood will be a good indicator on how he will be in the future.  You can get married farther down the line if the relationship proves stable, but don't rush into it until you *really* know him.

If you're visiting his parents tomorrow, I would suggest waiting to tell him until afterwards.  He's under enough stress with the whole meet-the-parents thing, and it would be unfair to all of you if he is not in a set state of mind.  Tell him right after, though.  He deserves to be told quickly so that you both can start figuring out what you are going to do.

I wish you luck.  This isn't going to be easy, but you may be pleasantly surprised that he is more than willing to be a good father.  All you can do is get the ball rolling...waiting any longer doesn't change the situation.

Answer 5

Marriage.  Adoption.

Choose one.

Answer 6

Your are not even sure of how he may react. Slow down take a deep breath and really think about this thing. A baby is a blessing no matter how it got here.  There is a reason and purpose for this child. He may not be ready you may not be ready but this is a baby.  Don't make haste decisions.  Raising a child is not easy especially if you are doing it alone but it is a life. I had a sonogram done at 5 weeks and there is a heartbeat a functioning heart.  There are so many options other then morning after pills and abortions.  Think about it talk to him.  I only knew my daughters father for 5 months when I got pregnant but you know what I can't imagine my life without her and he is not a part of her life AT ALL.  But God has provided everything she needs.

Be Blessed  

Answer 7

The morning after pill is not 100% efffective at preventing pregnancy.  Unfortunately you were unlucky.  

You have remember you took all the precautions you could so go easy on yourself; if you have s*x this can happen no matter how much contraception you use.  This is as much his doing as yours so don't feel bad about telling him.  But you need to tell him soon.  

I would wait untill after you have met his parents as that is a stressfull enough situation without that revelation.  He will be shocked but if he is a nice guy he should support you.  If you don't want an abortion then he would be wrong to ask you to get one.  Hopefully he will fully support your decision to have the baby and your relationship will work out well.  If it doesn't work out though then try to stay strong for yourself and your baby; it isn't ideal being a single mother but plenty of women are wonderful parents on their own.  Good luck.