Help With Making 'True Friends' Please?

Question

I'm 13 and have loads of friends who aren't 'true friends'. However my closest friends are ones who like the same music as me and dress like me, but the problem with them is they drink, smoke and I think some take drugs at my age! Its hard when I'm around them not to be tempted to have a go (which unfortunately I have). The obvious choice is to leave them, and make new friends but a change like that is hard! What should I do?

Answer 1

my brother has the same problem. he'd been having these types of friends for years. they're cool and all, like i love to pal around with them, but then when i see a bong (or an apple made into a bong) i just walk away and try not to call the police, becasue my dad would get mad insurance wise. anyways, to get rid of these friends and make more, you have to ignore them as much as possible. they will stop being your friends and meet other people who are just as stupid as they are. after that, you make new friends, by watching the people at your school, studying them kind of, to see who is good and who is like your other friends. once you know who is good or not, then you decide who to make friends with.  

Answer 2

you probabaly wouldnt feel comfortable talking to them would you? if you are, tell them you would rather not start a habbit that could mess up your future, and say that you would love to hang out with them on days they arent drinking or smoking. to make some new friends-- maybe you can join a sport or a club? you will met loads of new people who are interested in what you are interested in, and maybe you will even find a 'bestie' just try it! are n=if you dont like it, you can always quit and try something else.  

Answer 3

um still stay friends with them but not like best friends. kinda drift away. this may sound like much but maybe switch schools if your parents let you like try to explain to them. if there are other ppl at your school that would be good friends with start talkin to htem. your not gonna be true friends right away it takes time. sometimes your true friend is the exact opposite of you. and you might not even make true friends until you get to high school. so just be social and talk to ppl and hang out with ppl and hten you will find your true friend. stay above the influence and your most likely to find a good friend because when you hang out with a bunch of ppl who do that stuff they will steal your money and nice stuff.

Answer 4

they arent really ur true friends if they want you to smoke, drink, and do drugs with them. you seem like a good kid so you should leave them and find friends with the same interests who dont do stuff that you wouldnt consider doing.

Answer 5

whoa! these are bad friends who smoke well u never no,,,maybe u should take some time,,,maybe a true friend would turn up someone in ur neighbourhood,,best of luck and all my great wishes,,

remember,,these 'true friends' you call are very very bad,,u can end up in prison because of people like that,,trust me..i heard so many stories,,,alwayz take ur parents advice

x*x

Answer 6

Well you sound like you know what you should be doing.. (making new friends) and like you said you know it may be difficult, your 13 but you seem very level minded and know that being in the friendship group your in will only lead to bad things, be brave and adventurous and go out there and find other friends who dont put you in the position in whihc you dont want to be in. You may think it will be difficult and perhaps it will, but i believe you'll be fine, being yourself is the main thing to remember and remember you are only 13 so your bound to make loads of new friends who may or may not be 'true friends'. What usually happens is you find your 'true friends' when your older, im 17 and i moved to college after gcse's and I myself have only just found true friends!! so dont think your any different to others if you dont feel that you have that best friend that perhaps others have, because im sure you will do soon enough:)..

All the best..

Daisy x

Answer 7

I see your problem. What I would do, even if you are not sporty, is get into sport and get good enough at it to compete. Failing that I would start a hobby, where you can meet people and where it takes up all your time.

Answer 8

Hang out with you're "True friends" while you're with your other friends. Hanging out with like your favorite friend friends more, can help you make true friends.

:)