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Question

Ok my daughter Hanna wnats to spend the night at her friends ouse Liz and Chrystals. There is alot of smoking and drinking going on in that house tho. But Liz and Chrystal were begging me to let my daughter spend the night. What should I do??Oh and liz and Chrystal are really sweet kids and so is there mom, but alot of ganging and smoking going on in that house. Oh yeah Liz and Chrystals house are right there in front of us! Anyway what should I do????????????????????????

Answer 1

Protecting your children always has to come first. If you feel your child is in danger by going to this sleepover, then by all means, keep her home.

Answer 2

personally i wouldnt , not with the drinking ,smoking and ganging . kids do not need to be exposed to this , they will have enough of there plate as they get older .  why dont you ask liz and crystal to sleep over at your house . go rent movies , put your ahir in curlers, paint toe nails etc , etc. hopefully this helped

Answer 3

let her go. she needs to be able to make decisions on her own (hopefully they will be the right ones) if you dont let her then she will most likely just start to lie and go behind your back to get what she wants because she is not getting it by telling you the truth. this could be bad because if she did go drink and needed a ride she couldnt call and tell you because she went behind your back and then she might drink and drive which would be even worse.

good luck!

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Answer 4

Well personally your name seems to say it all. Or maybe your husband.

Listen I'm not a huge fan of having kids spend night @ my house either. My son is almost 11 and with exception of his best friend since 3! nobody else has spent night. But! I realize that @ some point that will have to change if I want my child to grow socially.It really isn't ALL about me when it comes to my child.

I would not allow my child to stay @ someones house that had that kind of activity going on. I would explain to my child why I felt that way.

You and husband are going to have to come to some type of agreement concerning children staying over @ your house.

If not your daughter will suffer. If your daughter is really friends with these girls and you state they are sweet kids then....maybe they could use a little getting out of that environment too.

Answer 5

hmmm, if it were me, id say no, you dont want your daugther caught up in all that.

maybe suggest having liz and chrystal sleep over at your house instead? that way you can sort of keep an eye on them?

Answer 6

First thing you do is protect your daughter. If you raen't comfortable with her spending the night in a house that is questionable, then DO NOT! Tell the girls they can have a sleepover at your house, get them snacks and movies and games! IF they aren't planng on doing something they shouldn't be doing then they will be fine staying at your house!

Answer 7

no!!! What you just said disturbs me. Go with your gut instincts, they are normally correct. I believe our gut instincts give us a warning of something happening, don't ignore it.

Answer 8

Well you can allow. But have a constant watch on your daughter and her friends. If anyone smokes, bring your daughter back to your house. Because even inhaling of that smoke can cause damage to the lungs and the air sacs or alveoli.

Answer 9

Don't be affraid to go with your gut feeling!!! If you think it's not right, then chances are very good that your feelings are correct.......a mother knows!

Don't be affraid to use the big bad word no, and don't be affraid to explain why.......why not have them swtch the sleep over to your house!

Answer 10

Your husband sounds really harsh. Why did he have kids? Sleepovers are normal. It's part of being a parent.

I wouldn't allow it but it's your decision. Smoking and ganging are things you should want to keep your daughter away from. It's hard enough out there without having that baggage too. Your husband should come off his high horse. He sounds like a jerk with that attitude.

Answer 11

Oh its hard to say if you say no your daughter will be mad at you, but she will be safe. If you say yes then she will be around stuff like smoking and drinking and banging and perhaps in harms way. explain to your daughter that that's not the kind of environment you want her around. Tell her that you will treat them to a night out and then take the girls home. better yet your husband seems to be really strict so let him tell her no.GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 12

i would just say no tell her why and so forth tell her the way you feel and why you feel it. sometimes we don't want to hurt our kids but we have to do things in there best intrest. good luck to you and wish you the best it is not easy i do understand that

Answer 13

Oh it's a definate!  Your daughter goes there she's gonna party.  But at the same time you hold her back she's gonna sneak around.  This is a hard one mom.

I'd say tell the girls to sleep at your house but they will still try to find a way maybe not that night but another  night to party.  Talk to her about drinking and smoking and tell her your a teenager and I know what goes on at there house and I know that you want to go party and explain how it makes you feel and if you do decide to let her go tell her you want a phone call from her I don't know that's a tough one good luck!