Help child wont leave me alone!!!!!!!!?

Question

Im a nursery nurse who works in a the nursery with 60 children and 1 of the children always cries and has done since september. if i go out of the room for any particular reason she cries after me, if she has to go outside to play and im not there she will cry and throw temper tantrums if i ask her to go and play with the activites that has been put out. if anyone has got any ideas that i can use to help her and give me my time back for the other children, it would be greatful.

Answer 1

I have had many children over the years do the same with me, as well as my other coworkers. Iam not sure why they picked me, they just did. One baby I cared for clung to me like glue for monthes, she wanted nothing to do with anyone else and would cry when I left the room, when I wasn't there the other staff said she would either cry or look generally unhappy. I walked in her whole face would light up and she would get exited and cling to me for a while. Neither I nor anyone else punished her for it, that's not what you should do. Just encourage her to do other things. Let her get used to you being nearby, but not right next to her. Then leave the room when she is cofortable with it. She will grow out of it. The baby girl I cared did, at least to the point where she would let others care for her. Though the two of us were close for many years, until she left that daycare. Perhaps you remind the child of someone she loves. Its possible things may be going on in the child's life especially if this began rather sudden. Children often act out in may different ways when there is termoil at home.

Answer 2

you should see his mom and talk to her. Or you should just give her a time out

Answer 3

It is completely normal for children to find a primary caregiver wherever they are. Many higher-quality child care centres assign primary caregivers to each child to help form an attachment and bond, because of the recognition that children will naturally bond with one caregiver.

However, this is not the only child in the room and you do have other children to look after. If this child is meant to be outside with another caregiver, you need to let it go and let the other caregiver deal with it. Give the child the opportunity to attach to other adults and to develop a bond with them also.

It does not in any way mean that this child is facing turmoil at home. When I worked in care, this would often happen - in fact, most of the children were more attached to at least one care giver over the others. Just treat her as you would any other child, as she needs to know that she is not the only child there.

Answer 4

i dont like to punish kids but tell her to start behaving or ull put her in time out...

Answer 5

This is tough because she has become attached to you which is never a good thing in the first place. Age is another thing you left out which is important. Firslty i suggest finding an activity she loves to do..one that she will get stuck into and enjoy, and slowly back away for a few minutes at a time..a gradual process until eventually one day you leave the room. Reassure the child you will be back if you HAVE to leave the room..explain you gotta go do something and u WILL be back. Maybe use a reward system as well if things are really bad?? that could always work.. Its really hard without alot of details..get her to interact with the other children too u can use the same technique. Its a hard process and she will cry but reassurance is the key.

Answer 6

Has there been anything that has happened at home?  Has her parents recently gotten divorced?  Sometimes, a child will cling to someone that they feel safe with.  Try casually asking her questions or watch things that she does.  Maybe her mom just had a baby.  I am a mother of two teenagers and a 11 year old and I know that they act out things when they are mad or can not express how they feel.  Hope this helps in some way.

Answer 7

Look into her family situation.  Something might have changed drastically to make the child insecure and attach herself to you.

Answer 8

You are a nursery nurse. Get used to it... You get paid to look after other peoples children.  Everybody expects excellent quality of care from you with NO exceptions.  Where is your patience ? Pick this child up and carry it with you.  By all means keep interacting with the other children, but this little precious bundle has chosen you for its security.  Take her by the hand when you go somewhere, engage her in play and take the time to treat her with the love and tenderness she was designed to receive.  YOU ARE BEING PAID TO BE KIND TO CHILDREN...

Answer 9

put her in the elevator and send her to the top floor, then run away.

Answer 10

Since September?   well hindsight I know will tell you this should have been dealt with right away!  Try giving stickers on her shirt if she will do another activity.  you can also try red square, green square.  If she will do the other activities, she gets a green square - three green squares she gets a prize (normally provided by mom) - red squares are ignored.  We have been trying the stickers with a very disruptive little boy who just joined our class - they worked for awhile but aren't anymore.  so, we've upped the ante and he earned a matchbox car yesterday - next week he will have to go all week to earn a plastic frog. These are just things I have around the preschool so hopefully, it won't break me!   Then hopefully, we will progress to nothing and praise being his only reward.   If he can do it for the matchbox car, it is within his capabilities to behave in the manner expected.  Good luck.

Answer 11

The people suggesting a form of punishment for this behavior are obviously inexperienced.  

I've found that work that helps build the child's concentration are critical.  It's not so much whether they are interested as much as it is whether they can focus on something else.  Pouring works, sensorial works (such as dipping their hands in a big vase full of beans), polishing silver, and other similar works are something the child can do that are very calming.  Introduce them to the child, then sit at the table with them while they work on them.  Be sure you are working on something else and not necessarily watching them.  Slowly, over time, pull yourself away from that situation and move farther and farther away as the child does the activity.  Let that child begin to see the activity as soothing.

It really sounds like something chaotic is going on in this child's life.  You might not be able to figure out what it is from the parents, even if they likely know.  So you may not be able to help with that directly, which is often difficult for us as teachers.  But you can be a stable person in that child's life who does help him build a comfort zone.

This will be a challenging, and rewarding, experience.