Help desperately needed!!!!!!?

Question

My 4 year old daughter lives with my dad and I. She has a whole "extended" family with all my friends. My best friend is like her aunt, the guy I like is like her dad etc. She loves us all and was very clingy to me. I'm 15 so I go to school, meaning when I come home I have homework and everything but I always try to involve her in some way the best I can. But lately she's not really clingy, and she likes to just sit on the couch and read her little 10 page picture books. And she used to be very talkative but she's quite now. And she used to get soo excited when aunt Bridgette or Jason would come over or we'd visit them but now she doesn't wanna see them or she just stays in her room. And if she does really talk to someone its my dad who also babysits her. Have I done something wrong? I've tried to give her a stable home the best I could. Why do you think shes being so distant? Also she's starting kindergarten soon could that be a factor? PLEASE HELP!!! I miss the way she was! ♥

Answer 1

You sound like such a wonderful person - I would take your daughter out, just mom and her - have a fun day - see how she acts. If she gets all excited, and acts the same as she did - then she could just be going though something as simple as being nervous about kindergarten. If she doesn't snap out of it when she's with you for that day - then take the others advice and take her to a doctor - they may be right with the abuse thing. You just never know, and you want the best for your daughter. She won't remember any of this being she's so young...... Spend some great time with her - take her indoor swimming - or to a special place you know she will like. See if the "old" little girl comes out!! good luck ♥

Answer 2

This is hopefully a joke because you would have had at 11 and got pregnant at 10.

Answer 3

Spend a little quality time, just you and her.  Start asking her questions.  Don't start with "Has anyone hurt you or touched you" though.  Ask her what she feels about each person and why and what kind of things do they do together and how does she feel about that..etc.  Ask stuff like that about your dad, your friends, your boyfrined, you, everyone.  Tell her that its okay to tell the truth even if she thinks it might hurt your feelings.  Let her know it's safe to talk to you and you'll do whatever you can to keep her safe and happy.  If that doesn't work take her to a doctor.  Maybe you both need a good sit down with someone who knows better than us here on yahoo.

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Good luck.  Hope it's a simple fix and not something major.

Answer 4

Who takes care of her all day while you are at school?  It sounds like she has withdrawn because of fear of someone.  Is she playing with children her own age during the day?  Is she outside at the park or at a child drop in centre when she can interact with others her age?  This is a definite sign of a major problem.  Don't ignore it - she needs your help.

Answer 5

First off let me start by congradulating you on being a beautiful mother at such a young age (understanding the circumstances).And the fact that you are so attentive to your daughter. I must say that for her to change her behavior like that would raise concern for me also. I would ask her (in private) about what may be happening and just examine her.Let her know that whatever she tells you she can trust you. and that you are going to protect her.

Answer 6

I hate to be the one to bear bad news but you MUST take the child to her Dr and tell the Doc what you just told us.

She could be being abused.

The Doc will be able to find out yes or no.

DO not come out and ask her is ??????? hurting you somehow.

You will never get the right answer that way.

Tomorrow, get her to the Doc

Answer 7

Baby, I had my son when I was still in school and we lived with my dad. He seemed to only want to be with his Paw-Paw for a long time. It hurts. I know but, it will pass. You are so brave and I respect you for staying in school and being a mother. Just be patient.

Answer 8

You said she spends time with your dad and they seem to be close so you should try to talk to her through him. With starting school soon she may be worried about how the kids are going to feel when they findout she is from a mother that was way to young to have a child(no offense if taken) especially if she sees alot of news and such that might make her aware of the wrongness.

Answer 9

She may be having a hard time dealing with something.  If she is close to your dad, talk with him.  See if he has heard anything from her, and if he hasn't, see if he will get her to talk with him.  Hopefully, he will get her to come around.  Good luck.