Help. family problems?

Question

My mom just recently married (again) and now I have a step-father and a new step-brother. They are the most annoying people in the world. My "dad" has anger issues, and my brother thinks hes hot ****. (which he most definately isnt.) Anyway, today me and my mom decided to go to the mall together and shop and hang out. But later I found out that my whole family has to come. I thought it would be just the two of us having some girl time we rarely have. But I dont even care about that. The problem is he is the worst person you can take shopping. Also, I've been wanting to go to this new mall for a long time now, and i asked my mom to go, but she always said that she didnt want to. But now that my step dad said he wanted to go, she gets right up and says "okay sounds fun" WHAT THE h**l, right? so now im here, crying, and my mom is trying to figure out why. she is so blind. I feel so left out and I feel like im a burden to her and her new family. And i dont even want to hurt her. How could i tell my mom how im feeling???

Answer 1

You should tell her, even if it hurts her. If you don't tell her, your just going to be miserable.  

Answer 2

You are going to have to be truthful with her. The next time you two have some alone time together tell her that you need to talk to her about how you are feeling and just talk to her. She is your mother and she loves you very much. You aren't going to hurt her like you think you might. Tell her you are feeling left out and that you would like to spend a little more alone time with her. Your mom is trying to blend the families together and that is a hard thing to do. She is trying to make everybody happy and doesn't realize that you are hurting. When you talk to her please be mature about it. There might not be anything she can do about her new husband's anger issues right now but ask her to at least try. It will be a long process for them and you need to stay out of that part of their relationship. Try your best to get to know your stepbrother. You don't say how old he is (or you either) so his age might be a factor in his newly found "hotness". Your mother would be more hurt to find out years later that you had these issues and didn't talk to her about it than if you talk to her about it now. (At least I would be and I'm a mom of a 13 y/o girl.) Treat everyone with respect and be a good girl and your household will be the better for it. Your good and happy attitude will reflect on everyone else and maybe it will rub off on them too.

Answer 3

its really hard to answer ur Qn .......any way she is ur mom u raise ur Qns frankly 2 her.she have 2 clear ur doubts.thats her duty !!!!!! really sad of u Gold !!!!!!

Answer 4

well, first you need to go and pray to God. ask Him for guidance and help and then go and tell your mom your hurt feelings in a nice way using "I" statements instead of saying "you did this" or "you did that!" dnt worry, girl, i kno you got this ♥

Answer 5

just tell her " mom i feel left out ,i am happy that ur happy and i want you to be but i want to spend time alone with u too.we could go places and just av fun like we use to , make sure u tell her you love her too

Answer 6

I totally agree with amomtoo.