Help from a military wife Does it get easier?

Question

My husband and I have been married for almost a year and He just left for 2 weeks I know it's not long but having a hard time does it get easier?

Answer 1

Anytime your spouse is gone, it's tough. Perhaps, get involved with some of the wives of other Soldiers in your unit or FRG. Two weeks is a fairly short period of time. Here's a link for assistance in dealing with deployment (mainly geared for longer than two weeks but you may benefit from it).

I know it's tough on my girlfriend when I've been gone but she keeps pretty busy with her job, grad school, working out, community service, etc.

-Army Officer and Pilot

Answer 2

Im not sure anymore...we have been in about 1 year and i dont see it getting easier this was easier during ait and basic. my husband is at the NTC and is gone all the time and i think its easier to either be gone all the time then 1 day home and 3 days gone then again, he has to work 20-30 days straight and in the field 2 weeks at a time with a shower run home every 2-3 days. we have been together 10 years and its hard to go from it being all about us to  its all about the army. he tried to get my bday off the other day and they pretty much told him to chose between his family or the army. after he already worked for 20 somedays straight i think it dont help either with all the idiots that are in his unit they are all little party people and immature i had a lot of respect for our military until i saw what its really all about little immature kids and thats sad....i heard tho that this gets better once we get pcs'd off this h**l hole so im really looking forward to that and hopefully my views on things will change anyways i hope it gets better for you take care and good luck

Answer 3

I agree with armykim, it doesnt get any easier.  Either you get stronger, or you break.  

Just keep yourself busy.  Use these times to do something you've been wanting to do.  Take a class, join a gym, take a few extra hours at work, a new hobby.    

there is always the FRG, but I always caution people on these, yes they are there for good purposes, but seriously there are some real shady ladies around.  Just be careful on what you talk about.  Home life issues has a way of becoming gossip.   Find yourself a good support group.  It can be just your best friend, family, frg, someone that you can lean on when you come close to breaking.  yes a military wife is d**n strong and can endure, but even we need a shoulder to cry on now and then.

    

Answer 4

Yes.  It does get easier...just as soon as those who sign your husband's checks stop starting wars and conducting false flag attacks, that is.  I know that the deployment of a spouse is something that is an emotional thing and I know that it isn't something to poke fun at.  What I am trying to tell you is that you should read the following and then work to help put an end to these conflicts.  Once you understand how things really work, then you better understand how to attempt to resolve these situations.  You have to be strong and you have to learn how to think and live outside of the box.  I pray for your husband's safety and I pray that the powers that be will someday abandon their greed and agendas which cause people like your husband to be deployed.  I know how difficult it must be for you.  Be strong and work to resolve the root causes of these deployments.  Next time it may be much longer than only two weeks.  Good luck and be strong.    

Wow.  Somebody reads very fast.  War is a Racket should take a minimum of ten minutes to read...fifteen minutes if you wish to comprehend it.  Someone already gave a thumbs down after three minutes.  Speed reader, huh?  Read the thing.  Smedley Butler was no fool...unlike those who only rate something after reading a comment, without reading the supporting evidence.  Just because something invokes an emotional response that they don't like doesn't mean that they need to become an ostrich with their head in the sand.  Speaking of supporting evidence, I'm now also including the interview of Benazir Bhutto, by Sir David Frost.  She was a former Prime Minister of Pakistan.  In this interview, she states that Osama Bin Laden was murdered by Omar Sheikh.  She, herself, was murdered not long after this interview which has NEVER been aired by the mainstream media in this nation.  You owe it to this brave woman to at least view the clip.  She lost her life because of it.  Why has this never even been aired and open for discussion in this nation?  Muse upon that.  The War on Terror is an absolute sham.  A sham.

Answer 5

i don't know if it gets easier i'm in the US Army and i was shot a few times i think it hurt my family, friends, and loved ones very badly. but i think if you can accept that there is a chance that he can get shot or KIA (killed in action) it can be a little easier for you. i'm not trying to scare you but its true. if i was in your shoes i would be scared a little. but hey i wish you and your loved one the best of luck. take care.

Answer 6

This is really hard for anyone to say. My wife and I had a long distance relationship for almost 4 years before we were married and I was in the Army for all of those. We made it work because we were both committed and loved each other. However, there were times that we were apart for nearly 9 months without seeing each other. (During my deployments)

There were times that she came that I was called back into work and others that we were able to spend quite a bit of time together. The Army (US Military) is difficult on relationships sometimes. When it comes down to make or break it depends on how committed each of you is to the other and how much you are willing to make it work so each of you can chase your dreams.

All of that being said, my wife and I have been happily married for 5 years now and are still going strong. And that was even through 3 deployments in excess of 17 months each.

If you were to ask my wife I'm certain she would tell you that being an Army girlfriend and later an Army wife has been difficult, but that she loves her life. We've made it work through distance and time through commitment, love, and understanding.

If you can love him and understand why he does what he does it will get easier.  It does seem to be a roller coaster at times, but if you can do what my wife has done for me, you may be able to enjoy it in some ways.  Also you should get involved with the FRG (Family Readiness Group), it can help by getting support from some of the other spouses and knowing that you are not the "Lone Ranger" and that a lot of the feelings you are having are the same as them.

I hope this helps.

Answer 7

No.

You'll get more used to being apart.  You'll get the hang of getting things done on your own.  You'll become much more independent.

But it never gets easier.  The separations get longer and more frequent.  And if/once you have children, you're insanely busy playing mom AND dad.

And then you get to a point where six months seems like a short separation.  Two months is a piece of cake and you hardly notice the time he's gone.

But it never gets easier.  This is a tough life we've chosen.  *hug*

We met while I was still in the Army.  Ten years later and I'm out, and we're still happily married.  Now with two kids.  I don't regret a thing, but the year-long (or longer) deployments are getting old.  He'll be back in four months or so, and I'm looking forward to our 'normal' Army lives again.

Good luck to you,

~ArmyKim