Help from any parents out there???

Question

I met this guy Over the internet, we get on so well and have been talking for about 2.5months. We have now decided to meet up at Xmas time. The thing is his parents are absloutely fine with it but mine arent. He would come over here first so my parents would get to meet him and everything. Any advice on how to talk about this calmly with my mum?

He is a real guy, i have done webcam conversations, sent photos and we talked on the phone for 4.5 hours last night.

Any advice would be great!

(We are both 18 and he lives in England and i live in Aussie)

Answer 1

Do a background check on him, maybe that will put mum at ease. A lot of parents feel that the internet is a bad way to meet people and that only dishonest people use it to meet up with unsuspecting innocents. Have her talk to his parents also. Good luck.

Answer 2

Correct me if I'm wrong, but don't Australians even achieve adulthood at 18?

Answer 3

If you are really committed to making this work, I would have your parents talk to him through the web cam FIRST before he comes all the way to where you live.

Don't you find it suspicious that he can afford to come all the way to see you? he is 18....how does he have all that money?

Internet love can be a win/loose situation....yes, you may find the love of your life, but no....you may find a creep.

Be careful, your parents only will try to love, support and protect you!

Answer 4

Well, you are both at a legal age so there is not much your parents can do really.

Your only problem would be respecting your parents rules if you live with them and if they refuse to have him at the house then thats just something you will have to work out between the both of you before his arrival.

All the best

Shelly

Answer 5

The Internet has changed so many things when it comes to dating.  In "real" life, you meet a guy face to face, he calls, you talk a couple of times on the phone, then maybe go out on a date.  If all is good, you go on more dates.  On the internet you  meet a guy, chat for awhile, hope that what he is really who he says he is, meet and maybe date.  Yes, when you meet a guy in "real" life, you don't know if he is lying about who he is, he could be just as dangerous as someone on the internet but for some reason we feel safer this way.  As a parent, I would be leery of a guy who my daughter met over the Internet.  I don't care if she was 18 or 45, I would still worry for her safety so I understand where your parents are coming from.  On the other hand, I understand where YOU are coming from.  I met my husband on line.  Whatever you do, be safe.  Don't go anywhere alone, when you first meet, do so with a friend in a public place.  Be responsible, do background checks, PUT YOUR SAFETY FIRST.