Help from mothers needed.

Question

My daughter and I have always had a close relationship particularly in the last few months as she has depression. A few weeks ago she met this really lovely guy who really looks after her and loves and cares about her. I am overjoyed that she is so happy and is feeling much better.Although I am still worried about her I am trying really hard to give her the space she needs to be a normal teenager as this is something she has not being. The problem is everytime I try to talk to her she accuses me of jealousy or says that i don't want her to get better, this is far from the truth i have got M.E and have found it extremely difficult to cope with her illness and had always put her first even when i felt really ill myself. The most important thing to me in my life is that my husband and three children are happy and healthy, i love them all so much. Am i being jealous and why does she think that i don't want her to get better?

Answer 1

thats weird...you need to find out what she really is feeling keep digging...be her mother and also talk to her like a friend as well...take her somewhere to eat and talk to her...and let her know how much you love her and how great of a person she is....hopefully and I will assume drugs is ruled out!

just keep your eyes and eyes open! why is she saying she's depressed ? she is very sensetive right now...just help her with her confidence and tell her how shes so beautiful all the time etc...

you are doing a good job so far! wish you were my MOM...

Maybe if she spent a week with my mom you will be an Angel figure and comforter for her...she doesent realize how good she has it !

Answer 2

I know your only concerned about her getting better, and you dont want to see her get hurt. Your not jealous at all, your just a really loving and caring person you cant help being like that your just so lovely and put other people before you all the time.

She loves you but she probably cant see that your only wanting her to be happy & not get hurt.

Shes so lucky to have a mum like you :).

Carry on being how you are your the BEST :):)

x x x

Answer 3

you are a loving caring mother!!...she is just being a typical teenager.. she will grow out of her spoilt behaviour... until then just let her know you love her....oh and when she is going through the same thing with her children ...remind her of now...lol

Answer 4

You sound to be a wonderful loving caring mother and wife. Try not to let this get to you. I suspect it is a sign of her age or perhaps the delayed teenage awkward years catching up? Has she changed in her behaviour? I suspect that she still loves you. Would it help to just allow her some room as you have been doing in the hope that the more you allow her to go, the more she'll return.

I hope that helps. Good luck

Answer 5

just  tell them