Help..here we go again :)?

Question

I went to the doctor this week to get an IUD, when I found out that I am pregnant! We have a two year old daughter, and a 4 month old daughter. We are just so nervous about having another one so soon, it is already difficult with them being two years apart. When the baby is born they will be 3, 1, and newborn. I just need some reassurance that everything is going to work out. I am nervous about being able to have enough energy through the pregnancy to keep up with the two little ones, then after keeping up with all three. My husband is a police officer and works weird hours sometimes so he is not always home at night when I could use the extra hand. I know that children are a blessing and that everything happens for a reason but, boy I really was not prepared for this :) Any advice, reassurance, and stories would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Answer 1

You guys will be fine. my paternal grandmother had nine kids and my grandfather was out at work most of the times.

Answer 2

You'll be fine.  The 3yo and 1yo will have each other as playmates while you are working with the newborn, unlike with your 1st child who I am sure wanted your attention while you where working with your 2nd. I hear 3rd children are much easier for that reason. Children are a blessing. Enjoy.

Answer 3

i'm sure everything will be fine!!! the 3 and 1 year olds will have eachother to play with and keep company making things a little easier on you. you can maybe enroll them in some play date group type of things 1 or 2 days a week for like an hour may not seem like much time now but alot can get done in an hour!!! all will work out dont worry!!! good luck and congrats

Answer 4

We got pregnant with our second when our first was only 3.5 months. I watch my 4 year old nephew alot. As I near the end of my pregnancy, my son and nephew play like children (not like a child and a baby). They really get on well together, and it is a good thing, since more and more, all I want to do is rest. Its easier to watch the two of them together than one or the other seperate. I can only imagine (and hope) that when the baby gets here, they will entertain each other still and give me time to take care of the baby... Good luck!

Answer 5

My wife blessed me with 3 children a boy and two girls.  They are 12, 10, and 9 now.  In the beginning it was hard, I am not going to lie to you but it is well worth it because being that close they stick together.  Yes they have their moments, but i wouldnt change it.As long as you have some help from your husband (when he can help).  Long story short ,  when my kids were in the terrible 2 stage, I went and played softball and ruptured my achillies and at the same time my wife had surgery.  so we were both laid up on the couch and the kids ran the house (lol) but we survived and you will too. But i have realized that boys are easier than girls to bring up.

Answer 6

It will be hard- there's no denying that! If you intend to go ahead with this, then it may be an idea to look into a nanny. I don't know how you feel about that, but it would definitely relieve some stress. Some mothers worry that their children will grow up closer to the nanny than them- not true. i have three brothers, and (until I was 6) we had a nanny. i was the youngest, so my oldest brother had a nanny until he was 14. I am extremely close to my mother, and always have been. It is definitely something to consider. Otherwise, you are just going to have to accept that, although children are a blessing, they are hard as h**l to look after! But you've done it with two- no reason why you can't do it with three!  

Answer 7

You will be fine im only 23 and me and my husband are about to have our 3 baby 12/10/08 we have 2 little boys ages 5 and 6 and they are only 13 months apart and very much a hand full still and now we are expecting another boy :) but i know you will be fine good luck and congrats on ur pregnancy

Answer 8

You will do just great i'm sure of it. I am only on my first child so i don't know from experience but i know that my mom had three of us very close together and yea it was hard because my dad had to work like 3 jobs to support us and and he wasn't around very much. but he did what he had to do to make sure that we had a roof over our head and food on the table. My mom always said that God would never give her to much than she could handle and i truly believe that. I wish you the best of luck with your baby's make sure you always try set aside a little time for just you so you don't go insane. Good Luck

Answer 9

im assuming you dont believe in abortion... well i can say that i think you are going to be very tired.. but its only a few years out of your life.. im sure that you will work everything out in the end and be a good mom.. good luck to you.