Help how do I win my kids back from my abusive and controlling ex-husband?

Question

It was the biggest mistake leaving the kids with him so I could provide for myself and kids? Now what tired of hearing same thing from attorneys. How can I win? Now because I have a boyfriend but not married that is a point against me. God help me!

Answer 1

You don't...Maybe you should change your sn too...Doesn't sound like you are much of a mother...

Answer 2

you should have been a better wife and not run off with another man. What kind of a mother dumps her children so she can live in a life of lust. One that don't deserve her children is one

Answer 3

First off, you have to have physical proof that he is abusive. Your chances are very slim. Remember, you let them go. You may also need to try and leave your vindictiveness behind and open up a clean communication with him. Did he ask for child support? He can if you cross him.

Answer 4

Well if you left your kids and you wanted a better life for you and them? why the h**l did u get a boyfriend? that won't look good in court... you aren't stable enuff in your life to be awarded them back? did u give up your rights at all??

Answer 5

You left your children with an abusive and controlling man???  My guess is that you must not fear for their safety from him.  It can also be held against you that you just left your children.  Get an attorney, and quick.  You may be able to get joint custody.  Did you pay your husband support for your children since they have been with him (you said you left to provide for yourself and your kids)?  I don't think the boyfriend thing will matter, unless you are living with him.  It depends a lot on the judge and the state.  Good luck.

Answer 6

There are three sides to every story - your side, his side, and the TRUTH.

Obviously, the court didnt find him to be an abusive, controlling man initially, did they?  

Answer 7

Is he really abusive and controlling? Or are you just trying to find arguments for a lost battle? After all, he did take care of your kids after you left them and above this, you have a boyfriend. Where was the mom when the kids needed her? Also, ask yourself this: can you provide better love and care for your kids than him? Are the kids happy with him? Are you more interested on your kids benefit or on your own? All the best.

Answer 8

You need a better lawyer.

Answer 9

It all depends on the state where the custody agreement would need to be heard. Based on what you have posted, it would not even get into court here in Washington; you need to show that either the other parent is a danger to the children (and most of that argument disintegrated when you let him take the kids) or that the children's situation has changed *significantly* since the original parenting plan was created.

You need to discuss this with a lawyer. Listen to what the lawyer says.