Help i am pregnant at 13?

Question

Hi i just found out that i am pregnant but how should i tell my mum i was sort of forced in to the s*x loads of peer presser and i don't no what to do i didn't want to have s*x any way he grabbed me i could not do that much please help i don't know what to say to her i don't want to kill the child but i don't want to give away but then i will have to give up my life.

Answer 1

hun. no matter how much you are nervous about it. you have to tell your mom. you could be doing something wrong to hurt the baby. tell her it wasn't your choice to have s*x. that you were forced. she should understand. I promise. It is a scary situation that you are in. Tell your mom the best you think. Dont chicken out. I have to tell myself. That Im going to do it and no backing down. If she does want you to have an abortion tell her its your not hers. And you want to have the baby. but I would go to the doctor and make sure for a fact that Im pregnant.(: Good luck!  

Answer 2

Sometimes when you love something, in this case your unborn baby, you have to think about what is best for the child in question.  At 13 are you going to be able to be the kind of parent you would want this child to have?  There are millions of families out there wishing for that "miracle baby".  Maybe yours is that miracle.  Then you will be able to finish growing up yourself and you will know that the child is safe and well provided for by a loving family.

Answer 3

Well, you are only 13, so it's easy for you to try to put the blame on everything else but you, but let me tell you, young lady, that "peer pressure" is one of the more silly reasons for having s*x.  I don't know how you've worked it up in your head, but basically, you had s*x. Why didn't you tell your parents immediately and have the jackazz arrested?

But here we are -- you're pregnant and now what to do?  If you don't believe in abortion, then you might as well start thinking about what is best for the baby and stop thinking about what you want and don't want.  It doesn't sound like you really want to keep the baby, but you have some warped idea that that is the "right" thing to do.  The right thing to do is what is right for the baby -- which is probably adoption.

However, at 13, your body may not be mature enough to safely bear a child.  Tell your mother, "I'm in trouble, and I need help -- I'm pregnant" , and then visit a doctor IMMEDIATELY so s/he can determine if you are healthy and ready to have a child.  And don't be surprised if your parents don't press charges against the jackazz that had s*x with a 13 year old.  

Answer 4

Talk to your mom. She will be disappointed at you but she wont hate you she will still love you the same and stick by your side threw-out the whole pregnancy.. and if you was forced to have s*x i would tell the police because that is practically rape. You wont be able to hide it for very long. Just talk to your mom and tell her everything that happened and stuff and see what she will do. Yes she may start crying and yelling at you but trust me she is not mad just very disappointed.

hope this helped. : ) good luck.

Answer 5

There is no good way to drop the bomb...you're just going to have to do it

Answer 6

tell her the truth, what you just told me.  its worth giving up your life, for anothers.  im 13 too, and ive been temped to have s*x as well, but didnt do it.  taking care of the baby is hard, but toatlly worth it

Answer 7

ok calm down....i think u should just tell ur mother that someone forced u to do it......i know it would be hard...i should knbow! i also have a protective mother....shell yell at u about what where u thinking how could u be so careless....u might not ever have any alone time since shell be with u all the time but thats only cuz shes scared for u... and its better to tell her now so they can catch the guy and in 9 months shell find out anyhow....and the guy might be in mexico by then!! so just u know take it easy..... mothers are always there for u...

Answer 8

Having a baby is a huge responsibilty. What ever you think about raising a baby add 10x harder to that.  I would tell oyur mom and realize she will be angry. But stay calm and talk to her with maturaty, and tell her your feelings. Of course she will be angry, but just remember she will get over it and she will support you she loves you, she's your mom.

Answer 9

I am soooo sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!

    you were raped, it wasn't peer pressure, remember none of this was your fault. Just tell your mom this " mommy, i was raped by  ____ and i am pregnant. I don't want to have an abortion or give the baby away, I wanted to tell you sooner but i thought i could avoid it. i am just so scared i don't know what to do.

Your mom will be shocked and probably ask you if you are kidding around with her, or she will ask is this just a cover-up bc you had consensual s*x. But she will know that you r telling the truth if you go to the hospital and ask for an exam "down there" It is called a rape kit . They will probably see vaginal ripping there if he pushed hard.

                

         I respect you for wanting to do whats best for this unborn child.

            another 13 year old e-mail or im me if u want to chat

Answer 10

have the baby and take care tell your mom and face it.

DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION!!!!!!!!

PRAY TO GOD ABOUT IT

Answer 11

maybe ur mom can nelp u raise the baby, tell her now.

you dont have 2 give up ur baby.

if it was rape, u should report it

Answer 12

Go to some sort of planned parenthood clinic - they're experts at giving you advice on what to do.  Also, you need to press charges against the guy that did that to you so he doesn't go around doing it to other helpless victims too.

Answer 13

you shouldnt have got involved in such things above your maturity level. You make it sound as if he forced you and if he did then that is rape and you should have him charged or arrested.

As for telling your mother. I suggest you write her a letter explaining EVERYTHING.

You are too young to raise a child but maybe you could adopt it out to someone in your family? like an aunt or distant cousin this way you can watch the child grow up.

but I most certainly wouldnt keep it at your age. its not just a social life you are losing out on but 6 years worth of school and maturing as a person. If you leave now then you will forever be stuck at the age of 13.

Answer 14

ok first dont listen to that girl that called you a disgrace! its okay & you made a mistake. i think if you talk to your mom and just tell her straight up she will understand. and you are 13 so you cant really take care of a baby right now so i would say the best option in your case would be adoption. good luck with everything

Answer 15

I'm really sorry that happened to you. You can charge him with rape, I think. If you want to have an abortion, you can...but think about it. If you can't handle it and think you might just go insane, you should do it. Adoption is very hard for kids and it's traumatizing for you to give birth so young.

Hope I helped.

Answer 16

tell your mom that you were pressured into having s*x and that he forced you. tell her that you didn't want to, but now you are pregnant. you need to tell her so she can take you to the doctor so you can stay healthy for your baby.

Answer 17

Congratulations! It's like a real barbie doll!

Answer 18

You got yourself into a tough situation...I guess you will have to tell your mom,but whatever you do,DO NOT KILL THE BABY!!!

Look for a good family that will adopt him once he is born.

I have a friend that got preganant when she was 12 years old.

It was tough for her, but her mom understood her,and cared for her and the baby,so she decided to keep it...but it's kind of strange,cuz now she's 17,and has a 5 year old kid...

Wish you luck!

Answer 19

oh honey please tell a grow up... please a friends mom or if your in school a teacher this is a whole lot for a young girl to handle be herself especially if you were forced you can go to your local police they will help you but please do keep this to your self ..... good luck

P.S. AND AS FOR YOU THAT ANSWERED WITH THAT STUPID REMARK ARE YOU STUPID OR SOMETHING THIS IS WHY YOUNG GIRLS FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE NO PLACE TO GO TO BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU

honey i wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide

Answer 20

hey um well ur mom will get mad but thats because she cares and explain the situation to her.this happens to lots of gurlz. dont give up the baby find an adoptive parent for the child and get to no those people and make sure there rite for ur baby.and make sure u tell ur mom cuz ull need a doc and stuff.hope thiz helps.:)add me if u would like to.:)

Answer 21

Hi Connie, look the fist thing is to ask your Mum to sit with you at the table if its possible and sit facing her, then tell how you are scared and that how your friends and boyfriend pressed you into doing it, how silly you had been by not telling her and tell her how you feel about the baby.... the real question is  if you dont want to give it up would you be willing to have him or her as a brother (that is if your parents agree in having the baby with them) how it doesn't matter who the father is the most important thing is that baby is your flesh and blood, and no matter what you will always love them and the baby...

I hope I helped... I tell you that someone very close to me had her first child at a very young age and we love him so much we are not sorry that it happen a baby is always a blessing and you can always go back to school after you have him....

Chin up and good luck!!!

Answer 22

Oh, hon, I am sorry that you are in this situation. It must feel difficult. The best way going about it, I would think, is just to tell her outright. It may save loads of being in trouble for lying. Hope I helped hon! :)

Answer 23

Gril i just don't know i just don't know

Answer 24

Ok well first of all if he grabbed you and you didnt have a choice that is not peer pressure that is rape and that is another issue all in itself, you need to tell someone about that. Secondly I know it is going to be hard to tell your mother but at your age you are really going to need her through this. She will be upset but she is your mother and she will still be there when you need her. I hope you all the best and that things work out.

Answer 25

omg ae you serious :o

im 13 and if sumthing happeneed like that too

me idk what i would do...

but u  should tell your parents..

What can tey do to you if it wasnt ur fault???

Dont kill it,And dont kill yourself over sumthing like this..

GOOD LUCK

tAKE kARE :)

Answer 26

My dear girl, this is a problem that is beyond your ability to control. Your mum will find out later if not sooner. It is best if you just go and get it over with and tell your mum exactly what happened. Whatever you do, do not make up any stories, the truth only.

There are laws which are set in place to protect children such as yourself from rape, which obviously is the case here.

Your mum will be upset. She might shout at you. Don't shout back.

You will want to have her understanding so you must give her some,

too.

You can speak to a social worker on the telephone if your mum is not immediately available. She will not criticise you but listen with compassion nd advise you accordingly, and probably help to tell your mum.

There is help for girls in your predicament. Don't make up your mind about anything yet, but I would strongly advise you to have your baby

adopted by a loving couple who want a child and who will be able to give it the advantages in life which will be out of your reach. That would be the most wonderful thing you could do for your baby. If you might decide to have an abortion, make your decision on doctor's advice. It could be the most favorable outcome for a girl in your situation. Do not discuss your matter with your friends, except your mum.

God bless.

Answer 27

tell ur mom u got raped and tell her u wanna put it up for adoption

talk to her about it and she may have different options

Answer 28

You need some adult guidance. If you were really truely forced to have s*x against your will serious measures need to be taken against that person. Talk to your parents. You just need to be straight forward. Good luck!

Answer 29

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation. If he grabbed you, that's considered rape and you need to file a report on that. Also, be truthful to your mom and let her know what happened. Good luck, and I hope all goes well with the baby.  

Answer 30

TELL YOUR MOM

have the baby and give it up for adoption

simple as that

It really makes me angry to hear that someone your age is pregnant because you couldnt make the right decisions.

Peers shouldnt tell you what to do,and if youre stupid enough to listen to them,then you wouldnt know how to take care of a child.