Help i don't like feeling like this?

Question

Okay, so i kinda have issues dealing with little things that bother me. Like if someone says something that I think might be insulting it just bothers me a lot and I keep thinking about it for days. Like yesterday, it was my first day of college classes yesterday and we had to introduce ourselves and tell why we were in college and why we were taking that particular course. Well i had to go first, i didn't mind, and while i was saying what my major was this girl behind me, i sit in the front row so i turned to look at everyone, just kept saying "That is soooo lame, omg it is sooo lame." She was talking about the major I had chosen, she was smiling and kind of laughing but it was like she was saying that I was an idiot for choosing that major. It just really made me feel bad, maybe she had tried it and didn't care for it but why did she have to make me feel bad about myself and my choice. I didn't ever say anything to her i just smiled and kept talking and essentially ignored her. But it still hurts, i don't know why. Can someone give me advice on how to deal with situations like this and advice to keep me from thinking about it and feeling bad about it. Thanks, don't tell me to go smart off to that girl, because i am not like that. :) Oh ya, it is my 2nd year in college if that helps in the class this girl said all this i didn't feel uncomfortable in the class it was a small class and i was sitting next to my friend.

Answer 1

I can assure you that this girl was nasty because she is unhappy herself. Happy people don't feel the need to try to put others down in order to make themselves feel better.

It is natural that you take hurtful things that people say to heart. I do. And my friends do. I sometimes wish I could be one of those people that just don't care what other people say, but its all part of developing your own personality and I think in time you become stronger.

Answer 2

Don't get sad just because someone makes you feel bad about your choice. What makes her think that her choice is any better than yours? You should be proud that you actually made a choice! No one can belittle yourself except you. You have been the bigger person by smiling at her and ignoring her. She might not know that but from what you have written, I know you are. Do not stoop down to other peoples ignorance and stupidity.

There is nothing that you can do except to believe in yourself that your choice is what represents you and what you love doing. If she doesn't like you, too bad.. she has to deal with it. You don't have to feel bad or think twice whether what you are doing is good or bad. You are who you are. Have faith in yourself and what you enjoy doing as long as it obeys the law and it doesn't hurt anyone. I know this would sound bad, but for all you know, in the future, maybe her  "that is so lame, omg it is soo lame" is what would be reflected upon her. And you will be a succesful person because of what she has said.

I have believe in you that what you are doing is great for you if you enjoy it. Have fun in college and don't let her bring you down. You have a good friend next to you. It should be all that matters. Hope you feel better soon!