Help...i have a kid on the way who gets custody?

Question

i am 16 years old and was impregnated when i was 15 and my boyfriend was 18.. i am working 2 jobs now from 50-60 hours a week and he doesnt work.. he doesnt work because he recieves social security because he lost both of his parents while he was under 18 so he will continue to get social security checks till he finishes summer school.. who will get custody of the child? and can social services file charges on him without me or my parents saying anything about me getting pregnant when i was still 15? my mom wants me and the baby to stay at my house till i am 18 but my boyfriend wants us both to move in with him, and if not both of us then he insists the baby will live with him.. will he have full custody just because he is 18?

Answer 1

no he will not get custody because he is 18. He would have to prove you unfit inorder to get full custody.

Answer 2

I got pregnant at seventeen and had my first child at eighteen. I moved in with my then-boyfriend now husband, and had to drive an hour to school, and an hour back. I later moved back in with my mother. She wants to help you? Listen carefully: THAT IS WONDERFUL, YOU ARE VERY LUCKY. And do you want him in your life? Also, is he going to be in the delivery room? Will he be there to sign the birth certificate? Those are all things to consider. If you don't want him in your life, consider not having him there so he doesn't sign the certificate, as you are not married to him and he will have to sign an affidavit of paternity. Once he signs that there is no going back. In my state, MO, it is ILLEGAL to keep any child away from their birth parent, whether it be mother or father. My husband went through a long & hard custody battle with his ex and we learned a lot. If this guy takes you to court, which it sounds like he may very well do, then as long as the court does not find you unfit, and your baby's father is found to be just fine also, then you will probably get split custody.

Unless the court finds something very wrong with you --or someone you live with-- they will not take custody away. They are capable of splitting your custody though. From what you told us, it sounds as though he will fight & receive a split custody agreement (which is NOT always 50-50) and will more than likely have to pay child support.

Good luck & don't stress.

Answer 3

no you will have full custody as you are the mother, there is no reason why he would get full custody unless i went to court and through social services etc. and you stand a better chance anyway because you are working and providing for your baby etc and he isnt able to do that. just do whats best for your baby, stay with your mum so she can help you and see what happens in the future. good luck.

Answer 4

You are the mother and they are not going to take custody away from you based on what you have said.  Your mother will not get custody and neither will your boyfriend.  As long as you can provide for the baby, and that includes if your mother is the one providing the financial support, then you will continue to have custody.  It is only if they find you unfit.  DO NOT move in with him.  He shows signs of an abuser later on.  He may not have touched you yet, but guys who threaten are more likely to do this later on.  He is emotionally abusing you at this point.  You work a lot.  That's good that you want to take care of your baby, but you really do need to rest some while you are pregnant.  Don't let his money scare you.  A lot of women think that because the man has more money they can't win and they will cave in.  This isn't true.  You are entitled to Legal Aid should it come to that.  Don't worry and if you need to talk, please feel free to email me.

Answer 5

As long as you are a 'fit' mother who is capable of taking care of your baby no court will take a baby away from it's birth mother and give the father custody.

As for the charges I'm not sure about the laws in your country/state. Your best bet would be to google for information.

Don't worry about the money side.. you said you are working, you will have your mums support and if you are not sharing custody (as in the baby will be spending 365nights/year - or majority of a year) then the father of this baby will have to pay child support.

No one else will have custody.. your baby will be living with you at your mums house. This is your baby and unless you give it up or a court rules otherwise you have full custody of your baby.

Answer 6

no love, its rare that custody gets handed to the father if the mother isnt negligent. If you have a stable home to bring it up in, you'll be fine

Answer 7

The courts really dont like to separate a child from its mother so I think if your mom is letting you stay at home with your baby all the courts really care is who can take care of the child and if you can provide a safe environment for your baby then you will be able to keep your baby, the only time the dad gets custody is if the mother can not provide for the child they just want the child to be safe and provided for. I think your all set, but you will probably have to share custody of your child since he is the father he will be permitted to have time with the child good luck

Answer 8

He will NEVER get custody.

An 18 year old boy that raped a 15 year old? (and it is rape, even if you consented)

He will be lucky if he isn't in jail for awhile.

If he tried to push it in court, they would notice the age differences immediately.  You wouldn't have to say a thing.

Plus he has no financial backing, Social Security?  That barely pays enough to support himself let alone a child.

Answer 9

baby almost always stays with mom unless mom is unfit. breastfeed! then you really get custody!