Help i need advice

Question

was in a relationship with my daughters father he was mentally abusing and controlling me every day. I was pregnant with my second daughter when he started being physically abusive toward me. At that point i had no self esteem i was notallowedd to workcouldn'tt even visit my family. One night he tried to hit my daughter as she yelled at him not to hurt her mummy. That was the last straw we left. I have since got an AVO so he cannot contact us. My question is i feel likeI'mm in a hole and dont know where to start to piece my life back together. ( i have my daughter incounselingg and my baby was born healthy) AM i doing the wrong thing by not letting My baby meet her father? What effects will this have on them to not have a father?

Answer 1

Not really you have to follow your heart and do what's right for your child.

Answer 2

Honey, you are a Mother, you did the right thing, so, don't second guess yourself now.  As far as your little angels knowing their father, well, all things in due time, maybe when they are teenagers, but if he still chooses to be controlling and a general a*****e, you raise your daughters, the best way you can and let him live his life outside of their lives because they don't need the bullzhit.  You are putting your life back together and I commend you, a family isn't always, children, a Mother and a Father, you have a "Family" and you continue to be Blessed in them and with them.   God Bless.

Answer 3

right now i think you are doing the correct thing when your daughter gets older she can decide if she wants to meet him for herself but for now it's your job as a parent to protect her and i am saying this from both a child who has been in this situation and a parent now myself.  but when your daugher does start to ask questions try not to talk pure **** about him but answer her questions honistly

Answer 4

I think it is best to not let them meet their father.

in my opinion no its not wrong. you have many reasons.

it will affect them in some way, i dont think anything major tho since she is just a baby, but i think as they grow older they will understand why you dont let them meet their father. And besides i dont think you would want to risk meeting their father and him menally abusing his kids too..if he tried to hit her before imagine what else hes capable of.

Answer 5

Ur absolutely don't the right thing by keeping ur children away from him. Ur daughters sooner or later will ask u for their daddy but don't let them near him, if he was abusive with u imagine wat he can do to the babies. Find help, move away, and keep a restraining order against him. Is the best u can do for u and ur babies. They are too young to realize it now but when ur daughters see u happy they'll also be happy even if they're daddy isn't around. Good Luck!  

Answer 6

It is better that they not be in a situation that they were in.. Who knows what could of happend.. I would not put my children through that.. They are much better off now!!! You be stong and that will reflect how your children are.. Stay postitive and everyday is a better day.. Keep your head up and never give up!!  

Answer 7

you are doing the right thing. the effects on them from not having a father will be far better than what would happen if he was around to abuse them too.  

Answer 8

You know the right thing to do stop questioning your self

Answer 9

i think the best thing to do is get yourself and your daughter sorted out first. you have gone through an ordeal. you need to be strong for your kids. get yourself happy again and then deal with the issue of whether your kids should see their dad. and whatever you do im sure it will be the best interest of your babies. you done well to walk out not many women have the courage. take care