Help! i think i have a personality disorder, how should i ask my mom to get me checked out?

Question

i think i have Avoided personality disorder and some others like anxiety and depression but i don't know how to ask my mom to get me to make sure. i can't just say mom i think i have some personality disorders can we go make sure??? I also think if i do she would force me to go out which won't make it any better? How would you ask your mom but keep it on the down-low, you know really calm? She took me to doctors before for my depression but they just gave me pills and asked a few questions. I'm really confused should i just ignore it?

Answer 1

A lot of people suffer from anxiety and depression - so your mother probably thinks it's just a phase. If you're convinced you have a personality disorder, you should probably just tell her. It's pretty expensive to get treatment for things like that which may make her reluctant - but she's your mother and wants you to be happy. Just tell her how you feel.  

Answer 2

No. Don't ignore it. I think that's great that you've been thinking about this.

How about some time in the car while she is driving you somewhere (captive audience who can't obsess about what you're saying)... "hey mom, you know how I went to those docs about my depression? well I was thinking I might like to try and find someone else to help me with all that, because all they gave me was gave me pills and asked a few questions, and I think I could do better with it if I worked on it a little more..."

Make it about something she already knows... you can bring up your other concerns with the new therapist.

Make it about you... as in "something I want to work on..."

Make it about her... as in helping you find someone.

Make it as casual as if you were talking about going to work for Walmart or what color you wanted to paint your room.

Hope that helps... best of luck!

Answer 3

Your mother does care about you and I am sure that she will be there for help.  I am a parent and I know.  My kids were sometimes afraid to talk to me but they would eventially come around and I would accept them with loving and open arms.

Be ready to discuss how you feel openly and frankly with your mother.  Hopefully she will take you to see a professional.  Be open and frank with them.  Always ask questions if you don't understand something and always express you concerns.

It is nice to get advice and information over the internet.  Be cautios of  someone that tries to give you a diagnosis that way.  Hesitate giving yourself a diagnosis.  Be in tune with what your mind and body are telling you.  Let a professional, though, do a proper diagnosis.

You say that you were on medication before for depression but don't say anything about ongoing counseling.  Counseling is always needed to undo tangled thinking that may be making things worse.  If needed, medication does help with brain chemistry but counseling is an important part of therapy.

Was the medicine prescribed by your regular doctor or did you see a psychiatrist?  My own regular doctor won't prescribe me any meds for mental health issues because he feels that a psychiatrist better knows what meds work best and has knowledge of side effects and reactions.  Maybe you weren't on the right med or proper dosage.  Some meds take a while to get into the system.  And some kind of meds work better for some people than they work for others.

If money is an issue,  have your mom check into communitiy support agencies or faith-based (church supported) sources.  These are usually available at no or little cost.

Take care of yourself now.  Don't do like I did and let things go for many years.  I missed out on a lot of life's happiness.   I am  enjoying life now that I am own the road to recovery.  I also have found that talking (praying) to God helps me a lot.  It has really put me over the top.

God bless.  Go with the grace of God.

Answer 4

Maybe you should do exactly what you dont want to the most, just tell her. You know nobody knows you any better than she does, right? Try the solutions that she suggest then if they dont work, just suggest your own ideas of ways to fix the problem. Since you gave her the first crack at helping she might be more willing to support your way next. Either way cant hurt, at least not alot huh? Just a suggestion. Good luck. I hope the best for you.

Answer 5

Do not ignore your feelings.  Talk to your mom and tell her about how you are feeling confused and think you may need to talk to therapist.  Make sure you get a therapist that you feel comfortable with.  You can even interview the therapist over the phone before seeing one-you should do this.  Also see if someone you trust can recommend one to you.  There are good therapists and ones that aren't very good.  God bless you.

Answer 6

Does your school offer any counseling? If so, confide in them that you feel your mom isn't the best source of getting you help. Are your grades and studies affected? Do you have any close friends?

Not knowing your mother, it is hard to advise you. But, I would hope she wants you to be well and happy. Tell her you know she tried with doctors and meds before, but you still are struggling with these problems. It doesn't sound like a personality disorder, more like depression. (Not sure what you mean by "avoided personality disorder".