Help i want your opinion?

Question

Iam 18 and just got married 2 weeks ago iam ready to have a baby do u think iam to young. i have always loved kids please help me and i dont know how to tell my husband

Answer 1

i agree with amanda....good luck

Answer 2

It's not so much about age, but where you are in your life.  Firstly, you may want some time with you and your husband for a year or so.  Babies can strain a relationship and will definetely give you less time together.  But let's say you tell him and you both feel ready.  Are you finacially ready?  Diapers cost a lot, formula costs a whole lot!  And then there are the clothes, baby food, baby gates, etc.  Be sure you both or at least one of you have a steady job and a home.  That's my advice, but I honestly must say that age isn't too important.  You hear a lot of women say that they wished they had kids when they were younger, and a lot say they wish they would have waited.  It's all a personal decision.  Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm not sure why you are in such hurry? you have long life to live and lots of things to do, build your educational base, go to college, work somewhere, experience life. this is something you can do anytime. and yes you are still very very young for this, and think of the child future before you do that.

Answer 4

Grow up first and then have your family. 1st things first. Make sure you can provide for that child all of it's need.

Answer 5

hooooly!  you just got married, girlfriend!!!!

spend some time enjoying and getting to know your husband before you bring a kid into the mix.  you've got a whole lifetime ahead of you - there's no rush.

Answer 6

I think you are far too young to be married at 18.  There is a whole life to experience out there.  At 18 you havent finished growing in your personal development.  You needed to have tasted the world before getting into the serious business of marriage.  Marriage is a tough task and here you are, just 18, two weeks wed, and you are worrying about having a baby.  Did you and your husband not talk about this before you got married?  Didnt you actually sit down and talk about where you want to be at certain stages of your life?

Already you have shown a basic immaturity.

You and your husband need to grow together, learn about living with each other and the compromises that have to be made in a marriage before bringing into the equation a baby.

And if you dont know how to tell your husband now - when on earth are you going to be able to?

I strongly recommend you put the having of children off until you have spent a few years together.

You dont even sound ready - I'm sorry but you still sound like a child.

You must have these conversations with your husband because marriage is all about communication.

I wish you luck because I think you are going to need it.

Answer 7

Wait until you finish college first. Don't just jump up and have a child. That child will get in the way of everything you want to do. My sister has 4 children and that stopped her from doing a lot of things she wanted to do. Her whole life was dedicated to taking care of children. Go to school first.