Help im feeling bad because my daughter is with her father

Question

My Husband and I have been seperated for three weeks , I have a three year old daughter , he is sending for our daughter , i get these anxiety attacks once he takes her , I know that she is in good hands when she is with him but i cant help but feel bad when she goes , I feel that he doesnt deserve her or deserve to see her , I know he is her father , but he got us in a stage where we cant stay with him because he is to weak to make decisions concerning us

Answer 1

he has a right to see her.  you will feel bad when he takes her.  make a schedule  for visiting times.  and stick to it.  the regularity will make it better for you and the child.  by the way making decisions is not a strong enough reason to split up.  my father never made a decision.  he and my mom were married for 60 years.  do you love him?  that is a reason for leaving.  

Answer 2

Please google a short piece called Desiderata and read it. It has all the answers both for now & forever in it.

Best wishes. uk

Answer 3

wisam,

From what I see, you've made the GREATEST MISTAKE you could have ever made in your family life.

You split up with your husband. The results of your divorce are your anxiety attacks, your daughter being separated between her separated parents.

wisam, please find it in your heart to come back to your husband. For goodness's sake! Care about your daughter! How would she feel? Being afraid to not make up, divorcing because of some reason is extremely selfish on both your part and your husband's! Your daughter's life has been cut in half. Literally. Half of her heart is gone.

I don't want to guilt-trip you, however, you must care about your daughter. Love your marriage with your husband when you can't find it in your heart to love him. If you can't do that, love your daughter.

Remember how your husband was before you married, and why you married him. Don't let your daughter's life be ruined.

God bless you, and I hope you'll open your eyes to see the great hurt you have done to your loving daughter.

Sincerely,

Wonhee