Help its urgent...my family..

Question

I am 16 yrs old and all my life i ve been physically and mentally aboused by my second bro who kept on beating me since my birth.My dad suffers from depressed since i was born maybe its my fault but mom says no my mom works full time job to bring food at home till 9 in the night n i dont have contacts with my oldest bro cuz he humiliated me a lot cuz of my bf.I never said anything while my bro beated me the last yrs even when we i went shopping with him n his gf n said that he beats me n started laughing.So he wants to use my pc n i dont allow him bcz i never touch his stuff never get in his room so i didnt give him the pass of my pc n said well u r not giving me fine..watch me breaking ur pc n he kicked it n punched the keyboard then for a first time i screamed at him n he screamed at me n left then to make fun of me he said can i use it now in a sarcastic way..Then my dad came n pointed his finger at me n said dont scream again n dont let our region to hear u i dont wanna get humiliated..I cant move out till 18 i dont have anyone but what can i do to all this?Help its urgent i m really depressed

Answer 1

Whenever yo brotha gets in yo face again, pick up whatever object(that will cause damage) is in reach and put it on his ***. Me and my oldest brotha used to always fight. He didnt put **** on **** yet and still he got special privilages because he was the oldest. He used to get on my nerves all day everyday. He thought because he was older and bigger that he could buck me and intimidate me, but one day i got fed up and i snapped. I used to pull knives, blades, broken glass or whatever i could get my hands on on his ***. He has scars to prove it. There has been numerous occassions where he don' got glass dishes thrown upside his head. We used to fist fight like crazy people. He bruised my arm so I blackened his eye. Now, i'm his favorite sister and we dont have any problems w/ one another. But that's my story. You should really talk to your school counselor and if that doesnt help, get the police involved.

Answer 2

well sounds like he nos tht you dont want to  get humiliated and so he nos how to get around you and tht you wont do anything well its time you started  he break ur things do the same to his every time he hits you  go see the doc, school con, any one tht can take pics and take down what happened tht way you will have something to back you up  

Answer 3

i dont know where u live but out here in washington you can move out at 16, which is what i did. i moved in with my best friend wich u should think carefully about because moving in with a friend can ruin the relationship. me and my friend were vary close and knew everything about eachother and it didnt ruin us. it acually made us closer. so you can move in with ur boyfriend or a good friend or a different family member. good luck and i hope u have a good life and get past this bad part

Answer 4

i'm really sorry to hear that.. it clear to see that your family doesn't deserve you.. you should talk to a friend and maybe tell your mom or you could study somewhere and ask some friends to help you... whatever you decide you shouldn't let them beat you up or abuse you like that they don't have a right. if that is the case maybe you should move with one of your relatives just don't stay with them if they do that to you...

Answer 5

Im sad to hear youve been going through this for so long.

Is there a person in your community that you trust? I understand that you dont want to make your family look bad. But you need to speak to someone you shouldnt have to do this alone. An older person that you look up and can confide in might help you get your feelings off your chest. I find i feel much better when i tell someone about my problems.

About your brother abusing you.. i think you need to sit your mother down and have a serious deep and meaningful converstaion. Tell her what your going through and how much he is hurting you. She probably doesnt realise how bad it is. Secondly, I would confont your brother. Tell him you can take it anymore. Tell him what he is doing to you... on the inside. The depression. Everything. He needs to take responsibility for what hes done. I dont know if this will make him stop but its worth a shot. He should be ashamed of himself for putting you through all this.

I wish you all the best honey... life is so hard sometimes. i hope things get better for you xx

Answer 6

you should go to your councelor at school and let that person try to help you.

Answer 7

Go to Child Protective Services. The abuse you are getting  is against the law. They have to investigate it. It is not your fault. You do not have to put up with this. Does your Mother know about this? I know she has to work so you can eat and such.This has been going on for too long report it and something will be done. I hope this helps you. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You need to file a police report. You need to do it right away.

Answer 9

Your brother needs help! What he is doing to you is wrong. But more importantly what your parents are doing is also wrong.  It sounds as if your family is male-oriented. (prefer men over women)

Can you stay away from these people? Don't GO shopping w/ your brother.  Do you have friends?  Can you escape to their house a lot?  Write down everything he says to you...when, where, and why in a journal.   This will help you keep track and acknowledge to yourself that it is NOT you.  Also, it could become a legal log of the abuse you are suffering.  

Read, exercise, study, make money, and do what you can to get OUT of that situation.  Keep your thoughts/dreams/ideas private, but make it a goal to get out and away from abusive relationships.  If your Mom is your ally (friend), confide in her.  Good luck

Answer 10

You need to tell somebody. If you don't it may get worse and he could end up hurting you more even beat you to death. Pride should not be more important than a life. Please talk to a teacher, counselor, friend, etc. You don't need to be in a situation like that.