Help me! 15 and pregnant?

Question

Im 15. I might be pregnant. The guy that got me this way is 17 and he doesnt want anything to do with it. I don't know how to tell my mom. Im going to keep it, I know that for sure. But how do I tell my mom? And Im planning on telling my ex boyfriends parents. Should I?

Answer 1

Periods can be late at times. I'd give it a couple more days. I would definitely take a pregnancy test. You can get them at most pharmacy stores or grocery stores- I realize that you may feel embarrassed or scared- go with a friend that you trust if you don't want to go alone. But don't worry about the person behind the counter- cuz they sell dozens of these things a day so they really don't care if you're buying- you're only freaking yourself out if you fear the person behind the counter will be judgmental when you're buying a test.

If it turns out to be positive, then you most definitely need to talk to your mom. I know it sounds scary. But I suggest just asking her to come into your room, closing the door, and being honest with her. There will either be a ton of yelling or a ton of silence. Be prepared for either- the sucky thing being that you won't know which you'd prefer. So stand strong.

You'll need to go to a doctor to get a real blood test done to confirm the pregnancy. No matter how accurate todays home tests are- you can still get false positives. Your mom can either go with you to a OB/gynocologist or take you to a planned parenthood clinic (they do tests there too)...

On the matter of keeping the baby- this is entirely up to you. While I commend you for choosing to not have an abortion, remember it is hard being a mom at 15. If you think you can handle it (still go to school and have a kid, without the dad helping), then good luck and bless you. I hope that your family will be supportive of both you and your baby. If you decide that it will be too much for you at such a young age, I hope you consider adoption- this is also a valid option and there are many versions of adoption these days (where you can have contact with the adoptive family or not, up to you)- plus it helps out loving families who can't have kids of their own for whatever reason.

Again, the matter of keeping the baby is definitely something you need to discuss openly and honestly with your mom.

As for the ex.... I think you should tell his parents only after you've made every decision for yourself in this matter. That way you can go into the situation with your ex prepared. Even if the boy doesn't want anything to do with your or the baby, that doesn't mean that his parents might not try to invoke their rights as grandparents. (I had a friend who got into a custody battle with her exboyfriends parents over her baby- so it can happen.)

Anyway- if you do decide to do the whole "get him for all the child support dollars he's worth" consider this. Even tho he may be obligated to pay you child support, it doesnt mean he will. And while more and more states are toughening up on dead beat dads- that doesn't mean he'll care. The aforementioned friend's ex spent 2 years in jail for non payment, and when he got out, he went right back to not paying- he really did not care.

So. If you think you may have a potential dead beat dad- I suggest you and your family contact a family lawyer FIRST... BEFORE you talk to the exboyfriend's family. Know your legal options first. If you don't want to deal with the hassle of trying to get him to pay- there is paperwork you can get to have him give up his parental rights. And the lawyer will tell you what you need to do in order to ensure that those orders are enforced.

Again- as I said- first, you should get yourself tested. Then talk to your mom. Then see a family lawyer before seeing the ex's family.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First off, take it easy. Its absolutely great you're thinking of your options, but my best advice is to take it one step at a time (like the song (: ) Also, I want to tell you to never give up, and to follow your heart. AND a lot of the people on Yahoo Answers (not including me) can be really mean, pay no attention to them. (Amanda C is REALLY mean and so dont even read her response.) You can handle this. I'm sure your mom and ex boyfriends' parents will help you through this. And if you can't feel like they can handle this, tell an adult you KNOW will (trusted teacher, friends' mom, aunt, etc. even if its a guy haha). Good luck to you, I really hope everything turns out in your favor. I'll be thinking of you, not in a creepy way haha. Good luck.

Answer 3

well first of all hun....SLOW DOWN!  You dont even know for sure if you are indeed pregnant.  You need to wait til you miss a period-if you already have, than you need to take a pregnancy test.  You can buy em at any store and they are very accurate. After you find out if you are for a fact pregnant, then thats when you need to worry about how to tell your mom.  If you are, then yes, tell his parents too and make him pay every cent you can get from him in child support-he willingly stuck his weiner in you, and he needs to accept the responsibility too!  I applaud you wanting to keep it-you are very mature for taking responsibility!

Answer 4

oh i feel soooooooooooooo......... sorry for you here is how you should tell your mom.



1.  Make sure she is in a good mood and there is nothing except for the baby that could upset her.

2. say it gently and don't make it seem like you are going to tell her you are having a baby

3. don't be afraid.  this is happening to a lot of teens lately.

4. watch episodes of The Secret life of The American Teenager (if you don't watch it already). she is just like you

5. don't be nervous

6. have self confidence



Good luck telling your parents.  I am happy that you are having a baby but not at the age of 15.  GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I was 15 and pregnant 12 years ago. I can't tell you what will be best for your situation, but I went to my mother first. She took about a week to come to terms with everything, then she took initiative and stood by my side while I handled aspects such as finding childcare, doctors, telling relatives, etc. I couldn't have gotten through it alone. You're going to hear a lot of people telling you what you should do, just be certain that you know what you want to do. I now have a beautiful little girl who is in a gifted and talented program in a magnet school, and I am about to graduate with a Master's degree in Organizational development. IT WILL NOT BE EASY, or anything resembling it. But it will be worth it. And by all means, do not hide it from your mother. I'm pregnant is only two words. Get it out.

Answer 6

1) Yess tell ur ex boyfriends parents

how is he going to F**k you and cant deal with it

2) I'm not trying 3 make you sad and all that but what are u doing having s*x at 15?

3)when my sis got breggo at age 19 she didnt know how to tell my mom so she rote a note to her and left the house 4 a day and my mom red it yea she was mad but she liked how she came to it to right a note

so why dont u right a note and go to a friends house 4 a day tell ur mom tho!! and just put the note somewhere and she will read whats going on....

good luck!

Answer 7

I was 16 when I got pregnant for the first time. You need to get her in a room where it's just you and her and just come out and say it. That's the best way. I don't know about telling his parents, I feel like he should be the one to tell them, but if he wants nothing to do with the baby then I guess he wouldn't tell them. If you want his parents involved with the baby, then go ahead and tell them. Or wait until you tell your mom and ask her opion on telling them. Maybe she can go with you? Good Luck!

Answer 8

Take a test first. That way you will be for sure. It sounds like the guy that got you this way is an idiot. Telling his parents would be the best thing.

Answer 9

Congradulations!I'm not kidding, I mean I know didn't want this, but since you didn't use a condom god knows why, at least you didn't get an STD. Good choice on keeping the baby! I hate it when people get an abortion, everyone should be resonsable for their actions. I think you should wait until they are in a good mood and have a plan before you talk to them, get information, anything that is a sign that you are responsable and your feet are on the ground, if she knows you are upset and worried she might be even more worried herself. Don't tell your exboyfriend's parents, you have to tell your own parents. good luck!

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