Help me!! HOw do i be less awkward.!?

Question

Whenever I'm talking to my friends in person or on the phone, there are always awkward silences. however. when talking to them online thru myspace/facebook/AIm it is not awkward. IN fact, two of my best friends i only became close with on AIM. I'm a really shy person and i think that that may be why. It doesn't stop me from being invited to hangout or whatever, but when i do, i'm always silently awkward...even when i talk to teachers...etc...

how do i be less awkwardly quiet in person and on the phone like I am online? ANd is anyone like this?

Answer 1

1. Cure for awkwardness is acting. You dont have to do it on stage. And it doesnt have to be shakespeare. Ask your librarian for plays or do a search and download them off the net. Rehearse by yourself. It does wonders for self confidence and stuttering. 2. Do not panic when silence enters the conversation. Maybe you're both talked out. Say goodbye or talk 2 yer later. 3. Being the odd one. You will never not be an odd one. Unless you are a participant in the conversation and the topic interests you. You cant also always expect someone to accommodate you.  Ask questions about whats being said. So next time you know what makes them click. Or if it doesnt interest you. Excuse yourself. Be happy that you escaped from a boring conversation. Be happy with your own skin. I have a friend who doesnt even wait to be asked to dance. When a song she likes comes on. She's like 'im there' on the dance floor. Doing her thing. Crazy. Sometimes yeah. But thats what freedom in your own skin is like.  

Answer 2

well whenever somoene brings up a topic, talk about how it relates to you

whatever pops into your head talk about it

guys will think your cute

Answer 3

understand that your friends already like you for who you are, thats why they invite you out.

dont worry about them judging you for anything that you might say when you are hanging out in person, because they wont.

its okay that you dont chime in all the time, you dont need to.

i bet you are a really great listener, and thats an excellent trait to have, because when you DO say something, it probably gets people to listen.

also, consider that you have time to think out your answers online, where as in person you have to go back and forth very quickly.

dont rush yourself, but try to contribute a little faster each time you hang out with them.

try to find some common ground with your friends, heck, you can even bring up a conversation you already had...maybe the fact that you already know the answers to the conversation will help get you comfortable with the idea of carrying on conversation in person and how quickly it moves.

I hope this was helpful.

i used to be just as you describe.

it takes a lot of time and effort, but just push yourself.

and remember: those who mind, dont matter. and those who matter, dont mind.

:) good luck!