Help me I am a sore loser?

Question

I admit that I am a very bad sore loser, and embarrassingly, I'm a young adult. Most of the time I play cards or board games with my friends, I end up losing. I have on friend in particular who wins most of the time at one board game, and as for the rest of the games, the wins are shared by her and another of my friends. Rarely, if ever, do I win.

And it makes me very mad. I get so agitated, and my stomach starts to hurt, and I feel like crying so bad. I really wish I wasn't like this. I feel like my friends are better than me, and if I can't win a simple board game or card game, how can I win in life?

Answer 1

Settler of Catan is a game of part strategy and part luck! This is my favorite board game too!

I would try different strategies to win. Sometimes I buy as many Development Cards as I can so that I can get largest army or the extra victory points.

When placing your initial houses, place them so that you will either get all 5 resources or place so that you are on the most commonly rolled numbers and get a 3:1 or resource port for trading.  (Remember that 6 and 8 are logically the most commonly rolled numbers, but it really depends on the group. My friends and I roll 4, 5 ,9 more than 6 or 8).

Try building roads for longest road.

Try not to always play nice -sometimes you have to play to win. If you block someone off on road building, it is better for you in the long run. If you have to place the robber, dont' place it on an unoccupied tile so that you don't have to take a resource from someone. If you are not comfortable with being aggressive, place the robber on a poor number like 2,3,11 or 12 to steal. Odds are that you won't affect your opponents resource production, but you still get to take a resource.

The only other suggestion I have is practice! Yahoo! and XBox 360 have an electronic version of the game so that you can practice your skills without having to play in person all the time.

Finally, it's not about winning or losing it's whether you had a good time spending time with your friends. Think about what it would be like if you didn't have those friends to hang out with!

Answer 2

You're taking this game thing a little to seriously, first of all those more to life than just games and as for your friends they probably play the games so much that they mastered it and know all the tricks, that or they are probably cheating. Try challenging them at a game your an expert at or think ur good at. And MAN UP!!

Answer 3

To succeed in winning board games (and winning in life) you just have to practise (sometimes alot, because it won't happen overnight). If you keep practising, you will eventually learn some strategy on how to win.

The key thing here would be "PATIENCE"

Answer 4

Play for the fun of the game, not for winning.   Many board games require calm and patience and practice, so if you are always tensed and anxious about winning when you play, that is partly why it is difficult for you to win.  

A board game is not life, but in life there will always be good days and bad days and we have to be able to deal with them.  Life is not about winning.  It is about leading the best life you can, caring for others and helping others, and contributing to society and the world.  If you want to look at it in those terms, that is how you become a winner.

Best of luck.

Answer 5

well life isnt a board game, practice?..

Answer 6

theres no need to worry.. u will win some day and what is losing when u are having fun with your friends. Im sure spending time with your friend is more important than losing :P

Answer 7

what's a board game ? is it like chess and stuff ?

if it is , I think mastering the rules in that game will definitley help you .

Answer 8

Well, try regarding your response to games as a game in itself - can you "win" by developing a good attitude for the results of games - you do learn more when you lose, after all, and applying that learning will improve your skill - a victory in itself - and when you win, it is good to be pleased with your skill, self-congratulatory with your luck, and gracious in the victory.