Help me ....(Parents answers and some kids)?

Question

My mom has raised me ever since she left my dad when I was 4 and now I am 12.When school got out in june I went to live with my dad for 2 months which is where I am currently.The thing is that I want to live with my dad really bad and my mom is being a total b!@%# about the whole situation and so is my step dad .Any advice on how to deal

Answer 1

try to get everyone to look at it from each others point of view.

and you you should too.

its is probably really difficult for your mom because she feels like your dad abandoned you and her.

and she feels like you are a team.

and also you have been living with your father for 2 months.

he might seem like he is more fun or less strict but really what you need are good parents who love you and do in some cases set boundries or are strict.

what your dad did really hurt your mom and she is probably still trying to protect you.

Answer 2

idk i need help too sorry

Answer 3

Sorry sweetie, I don't know. ask your dad how he feels and if he is willing to put up a fight to get you to live with him

good luck

Answer 4

Your mom probably still has issues with your dad, whatever reasons they got divorced in the first place, or just afraid that she will lose you to him. Or maybe they don't think your dad can handle it or that he isn't as responsible as them. When you all calm down, you should ask them for some good reasons why they feel that way, and you tell them the reasons you want to go there and live with him. if it's up to your mom to decide, it's better to try to reason with her and help her see your perspective - he is your dad and you need to spend time with him, too.

Answer 5

I am sorry for your situation. I can imagine it is very stressful for you. My husband dealt with a situation similar to yours when he was growing up.

Your Mom has probably been the primary parent your whole life. Can you imagine how it makes her feel to hear you say you don't want to live with her anymore?

I am a mother of two, my oldest is 7 years. It is impossible for you to understand the emotions and feelings you have for your children. There isn't anything I wouldn't do for my kids and I am constantly wondering if I am doing the right thing and making the right decisions to keep them safe and healthy.

Your Mom would probably worry about you all the time. She would be concerned that you were safe and would worry that she wasn't there for you to help you through day to day life.

Your Mom and Step-dad love you. They care about you and want you to have a great life. More than likely they think you would be better off with them.

Why exactly do you want to live with your dad? Do your parents live close to each other? Would you have to change schools?

I suggest you see if you can set down with your Mom and Dad and just tell them how you feel. Sometimes what we want and what is best for us are not the same thing.

I hope you feel better soon. Best wishes.

Answer 6

DEPENDING ON WHAT STATE YOU LIVE IN 12 YEARS OLD IS THE LEGAL AGE TO BE ABLE TO DECIDE WHAT PARENT TO LIVE WITH.

TALK TO YOUR DAD ABOUT THIS AND LET HIM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO LIVE WITH HIM. IF IT COMES DOWN TO IT YOU CAN PETITION TO LIVE WITH YOUR DAD TAKE YOUR MOM TO COURT. A JUDGE WILL LOOK AT BOTH SITUATIONS, AND WILL TALK TO YOU ABOUT WHERE YOU WOULD RATHER LIVE AND THEN TAKE THAT INTO ACCOUNT IN DECIDING WHERE YOU SHOULD GO.

Answer 7

Your mom is afraid of losing you

Do not forget how much she give up to raise you for the last 8 years

You need to give your mother time

Answer 8

your situation sounds like the one that i had. my parents split up when i was 5 so i had to live with my mom. so last year i found out that when u turn 14 u can appeal ur case to the divorce court. and u can move with ur dad. i no 14 is a long time away but u'll have more time to think by then. but find out if u can do it before 14.

Answer 9

i dont know what state you live in. But in some states at 12 you can deside where you want to live. talk to your dad and if your dad says yes you can take it to court.

Answer 10

If I were in your mom's situation, I would be upset, who wants to lose their child???  But, she needs to put your feelings into consideration.  If it is because you miss your father a lot...she should consider it, for you.  But, if you are wanting to live with your father, because he let's you get away with more..and so on, then I wouldn't.

Answer 11

You just have to tell her what you want and make her realise that you will go and see her still. If not, I'm afraid you are going to have to return to your mother until you are old enough to make your own descisions and leave home. She will let go one day but it is going to take time. It's very hard for parents to let go.

Answer 12

Why do you want to live with your DAD? Is it because you are a teenager now and feel that your DAD will be less hard on you. A good parent cares about you and will be hard on you because they want the best for you. Your Mom has been there for you and for you to turn your back on her is just heartbreaking and your DAD is a d**k for suddenly giving you that option. If he had your best interest in mind he would want you in a 2 parent home where you are getting a proper upbringing. I think if you do live with your DAD you will end up in trouble. Think about what you are saying to your MOM as well just up and leaving her!

Answer 13

I feel the same way you do because I want live with my dad but he doesnt have the space for me and my mom doesnt think that he will be able to take care of me even though I'm 15, have a job and have a 2 year scholorship to college, but all I can tell you is take her to court and tell them you want to live with your dad.

Answer 14

I'm not sure if a 12 yr old can file a petition in Family Court to change which parent you live with. I think you have to be 16 if you want to file the petition on your own behalf.

Your best bet may be having your dad file the petition, which is going to end up being a big custody battle in court. It is going to cost your dad money to do this also.

Have you sat down with your dad & asked him if he could help?

Answer 15

i dunno what u should do. i'd say just go with the flow, but since u haven't seen ur dad fer so long, try living with him nad tell ur mom that u think u need to know him better.

tell ur step dad to f(u)ck off; he shouldn't say any thing, it's not his busness.