Help me before I make the biggest mistake of my life!!?

Question

My husband wants to move to Nicaragua. I have 2 Kids age 16 and 17, my husband is 40 white american; and he thinks that the experience of living abroad will be a wonderful experience for the family. We own a business that allows us the freedom to live anywhere, so he thinks that the existing economy in Nicaragua is not relevant to us. Now here is the rub: I'm originally from Nicaragua, and unlike my husband I'm concerned with the economy in nicaragua, mostly because of what happens when you are living in luxury surrounded by so much poverty. Most of the information that I have found on Nic. seem to have been put together 3 or 4 years ago. I remember when Costa Rica and Honduras were the best place to live according to the realtors trying to make a killing out of new retirees, and know the statistics paint a different story.. painting Nicaragua as a safe, wonderful place unlike " the rest of Central America" By the Way, I left 30 years ago and have not been back... What do you think

Answer 1

He obviously knows nothing about what it's like down there. If he is American, he will SURELY be wanting to get the h-ll out of there soon after establishing residency.  Nicaragua? Come on? People risk their lives every day trying to LEAVE that backward country.

Answer 2

Do what i did when choosing a new place to live, visit all those ountry (you can take a tour) explain to your husband that it's a very big desicion and you need some visual imput and once you see all the other options you can choose and maybe decide, as for me I would go to Costa Rica.

Answer 3

Wow, that is kinda crazy to just pack up and move the whole family and to S. Americe?!? Why not go to spain or Italy or somewhere in Europe where your kids will still learn a new culture, as they have your cultural influence already, as well as be safe comfortable!! Sapin is great and it offers alot of tax incentives! It would be a good compromise.  

I am married to an immagrant who has no desire to return to his former home because of the state of affairs there eithor.  

Stand your ground of not going back but offer the comprimise as i do believe that living in a different country and culture will be great for you children.  It was for me.  I lived in Germany for 4 year! Best time of my life!

Good luck and God bless you and your family!

Answer 4

Hello, 2 words ERIC VOLZ. Is a young american man whom was a surfer and wanted to move to Nicaragua. He then began to work for an EP Magazine which was located in or near Managua. His girlfriend Doriz Jimenez was found dead. They had so much evidence proving his innocense but the Residents of Nicaragua still wanted him locked up for a long time. He was sentenced to 30 years in a Nicaraguan prison where his health began to deteriorate very quickly. I am not sure though now how he is. Whether they will do another trial or what. But I do know that nicaragua is still a developing country. I had went to a slum in Costa Rica for a few months where there were many Columbians and Nicaraguans living. Many Costa Ricans do not like Nicaraguans at all. Due to the fact that so many Nicaraguans go to their country to take advantage of the close to free medical care. I think that there is alot of racism in Costa Rica to the Nicaraguans. The same as America to Mexico. I would love to travel to Nicaragua. I've had many Nicaraguan friends in Costa Rica but I would definately not buy property there.

Answer 5

I have a friend who's husband invested in some gas wells.  Together, they took a mortgage out on their house to pay for this investment, and it was not money they could afford to lose. The gas wells have not paid out, and it is starting to look like they never will.  So, as they approach their retirement years, they have thousands of dollars of savings they are expending (They are in Real Estate right now in an area that is not doing well), and they are quickly having monetary problems.

Her husband tried to apologize to her the other day for getting them into this mess.  But she would have nothing to do with it.  She said, "Honey, as your wife, I knew it was wrong to take out that mortgage, and I just wasn't strong enough to say no to you.  I should have walked out that door and said that I was going to live with my mother until you came to your senses."

It's like an old country song I was listening to this morning "Daddy's comin' 'round to Mama's Way of Thinkin'".  It is about a woman who changes the locks on the doors and when her husband comes home after yet another night of carousing, she informs him that there is a new game in town.

As women, when we KNOW our husbands are making a bad decision, we have to be willing to take the risk and let them know in whatever way it takes for them to understand that it isn't something we will be willing to stand for.

Vows of obedience or not, we have to look out for our families, and not do things that will bring destruction upon them.

So, take a deep breath, and tell him he can move to Nicaragua if he wants to, but you and the boys will be moving somewhere safer.  There are plenty of countries where you can have the same experience and not risk your lives, so, dear "How 'bout we choose one of those!"

Even if it is just that you moved away from Nicaragua and there are bad memories, that is a good enough reason to not want to go there.  If you want to make some peace in your heart about Nicaragua, then you can move to Costa Rica (or wherever) and visit Nicaragua.

Good luck!

Answer 6

dont you have relatives there to ask about economy and violence??

Answer 7

Have you tried to explain all this to your husband? If so, and he still doesn't care, there's something wrong. In my personal opinion, as long as the 2 of you have each other nothing else in the world matters. As far as where you will call home, try to meet him in the middle. Maybe a neighboring country or town. Something closer than America, but not the heart of Nic. And maybe things have changed there. I would suggest trying to get in contact with a family over there in the same class your family is in.  Also, before anything else, yall should think about the children and what they want. They are 16 and 17 so they must be in their last few years of high shcool. Would you want to uprrot them and move them from all their friends and family here? Do they want to go? Maybe Nic is a good place for retirement when you're older and your kids are too... Sorry if this was no help...

Answer 8

Speak to expatriates from those countries who are living there and also speak to the American and other countries consulates in your area to see what life is like there as well as any other concerns you may have about living in these countries. There is nothing like being informed to assist you in making a sound decision!

Wishing you and your family all of God's blessings and covering!

Answer 9

u said that Honduras is a better place lol u are an idiot.. you can go and live in Madagascar and i dont care bye ..

Answer 10

can you go rent for a month and see what you think then? Maybe it will change your mind maybe it will change his mind