Help me control my mind.

Question

I'm 16, and I fear death more than anything. I feel like the world hates me, and as a result, I hate the world. I cannot control my anger anymore, It feels as if there is someone screaming within my head. My confidence is that of a shadow, it is so weak, that I feel as if I no longer have the strength to fight my own mind, and it's troubles. The only thing that can control me is being in the company of my pets, and listening to music. Other than that, I feel unpredictable. It is like my mind and I are complete opposites, and that I must continually fight against unwanted thoughts, that I cannot control from appearing. I fear that I willl hurt either myself, or someone else. I never feel this angry when I am around women as well, if anyone is thinking that I could hurt a girl. That is one aspect that I CAN control.

Help me...

Answer 1

I do not believe the world hates you. Normal people do fear death. I don't know why you are so angry but I do know that at your age there is a storm of hormones flying around in your body. If you have unwanted thoughts, perhaps you could use writing to get them out of your head. From the way you wrote your question, it is obvious that you are intelligent and have a way with words.

Confidence is not something that magically appears. You have to claim it. So just step up and take it for yourself.

I think you should see a doctor, dear, and get on the road to feeling better. I also think you have a talent with words that you could use to help yourself feel better. Also, this is a temporary thing. You will not always feel this bad. Things do get better as you get older. But don't wait...see a doctor. There is no reason you should have to go through your days feeling so bad. Best wishes to you.  

Answer 2

You say you don't feel this way around women so much... find yourself a girl to spend time with, it might soothe you.  

Answer 3

Although you might not agree, I think meds might help to calm your mind down. They help me. I don't like taking pills, but I've tried it without and it just doesn't work. Good luck in whatever you do about your problem.

Answer 4

You sound as if you need real!! help, people can advise to a certain extent on here but you sound as if you need to go to a specialist.

Your only 16 you should be happy with some friends, get to the doctors asap  

Answer 5

Hi:      I am sorry that you are feeling so much pain. I remember similar thoughts and experiences when I was a teenager.

There have been so many wonderful suggestions in the previous letters that I honestly don't have to much to add.

You wrote that you like being in the company of pets (so do I, I have 3 marvelous cats). You like music and being around women. So that's a start. Find out what comforts you and be in the presence of those comforting experiences as often as possible.

However, like other people at this forum, I really recommend that you find a counselor or therapist you can talk to directly. You may not have many people you can share your problems with. So finding a professional to talk with can be a very healing and soothing experience. I have benefited from seeing a therapist, and it is likely that other people who respond to your question have also been in some sort of counseling. It is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. What could be more exhilarating than learning about yourself----not just talking about your fears but exploring and expressing your positive side as well. Right now, you may not feel like you have a positive side. However, that can change with time.  

Like others who took the time to write to you, I send you thoughts of healing and joy.  

Answer 6

I mean this is in the best possible way:  talk to a counselor soon.  You need someone objective to help you get a handle on your feelings and to teach you how to control your anger and other emotions.  Good luck - and the world doesn't hate you.

Answer 7

Such is the world of being 16.  This is a difficult time in your life and all being well over the next few years all this horrible stuff will improve.  Why mother nature chose to make the teenage years so full of angst is not for the humble likes of myself to answer.  Yes of course if you feel you are being overwhelmed seek help, but if you can keep in mind that your age is not helping.  Being 16 and having crazy thoughts and fears and desires is just part of this time of life.  And it stinks.  Keep battling your demons, try not to do anything that will compound your problems, such as directly experessing your anger or experimenting with drugs or alchohol, they will only make your current state continue longer.  This will pass.  It will.  I promise you.  You may need help to get through it, but you will not be a teenager forever, and being an adult is in comparison a lot of fun.  Less worries, freeedom, independence, choices...you have such a future to look forward to, you just need to get there in one piece.  And the world doesn't hate you, it doesn't hate anybody, it just is.  I don't hate you, so there's one person for starters.  

Do explore your feelings around women, you are now sexually aware and somehow this is being turned into anger to women (I am assuming you're heterosexual as I don't know you).  This is something a counsellor can help with.  

Take comfort from your pets, but never forget they are animals, and your world must be with people, your own kind.  People can be nasty, unreliable, annoying and irrational.  Such is the adult world.  But between all these characters are those who will be your friends, make you laugh, talk to you, share your ups and down, love you...in comparison your pets are no match.  They have their lives, you have yours.  It is the task of us all to learn to live with each other.  You are about to enter the most exiting adventure of your life - adulthood.  Enjoy the ride!

Answer 8

I feel the same way. I feel there are 2 people not including myself having conversations and often use my mouth to speak their minds. Ok..WEIRD right lol. I don't feel like physically hurting people but sometimes I verbally say things.

I try writing in a journal how i feel, I exercise (this is REALLY GOOD!) lift weights or jog. You said you like your pets and music well perhaps play an instrument or get with a group of people that share the same interest where you can meet a couple times a day.

Getting a girlfriend sounds nice, but what if she eventually triggers your button? Women are good for that you know. Exercise your mind before you get with a female. If you are religious perhaps praying will do the trick. good luck

Answer 9

you cant control your mind, you can control the ways you act following it.

If your really struggling with things -as it sounds you are at the moment, I would go see your doctor, they will have many many things you can try, if you dont see them, things could very easily spiral out of any degree of normality and this would make it very hard to acess help and learn to cope with things.

It feels much eaiser when your working with someone, and your doctor is very likely to refer you for proper treatment.

Answer 10

you think you can control it-and maybe you can but why chance it? Get to a doctor asap- if you parents can't take you go to the school psychologist and report your symptoms.