I know you can't do this online really well..but, consider it a fun guessing game. We have two children together...we have to have some contact...I would like a better understanding of his underlying issues and how best to deal with him for the kids' sake. I was unable to get sole custody...very difficult in our state. And even with sole, visitation is allowed. So...anyway...
My ex-husband is a pathological liar...believes his lies he makes up...gets irate when you confront him with the truth. He is very manipulative...even attempted suicide when I left him...as a manipulative tactic (per my counselor and his). He remarried one month after I did (he knew the girl for 3 mo.) he cannot handle being alone...will not live alone under any circumstance. He would be the epitomy of Mr. Christian and then snap and he would cuss and throw things and be soooo scary. Then, act like he doesn't remember any of it....my counselor thinks that's a lie. He even lied about a break-in...where he fought off the attacker...and later had to go identify the body....very creepy looking back on it. He even lied to our marriage therapist.
Anyway, he lies about me and to me constantly and to our two children. I have been ignorant and continued to confront him and engage him about this. I am just this week making myself stop. Very hard. I need ideas on his issues...and how best to deal with him.
I do not want to get caught up in his drama any more. I'm the kind of person...if I understand more about what he's doing...I handle it better. Also, best strategies for stopping it would be appreciated. Thanks!
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