Help me find! Do you remember unmarried schoolmate/neighbor Buff NY that gave up child for adoption 1962/63?

Question

I am searching for my biological mother and/or relatives.

I was born to an18yr old, caucasian, 5'4", 125lb, reddish brown hair, hazel eyed, emotionally immature, Catholic, high school graduate office worker on 6/17/63. My biological father was black.

My name at birth was Cynthia Marie, 8lbs, 13oz, 21in, long curly hair, healthy. The name of the hospital in Erie, Co. (Buffalo), NY not listed on birth certificate

My mother chose to surrender because she no longer had a relationship with my father and she was going to marry a caucasian boyfriend that could not accept a child from another race.

My temp foster parents (who ended up adopting me and giving me everything a "little princess" could desire) Had to send me back to my biological mother at 6 months so she could see how "dark" I got.

The info I have on my biological mother was sent to me by the state of NY Dept of Health. All that it said about the father was "reported healthy by mother."

I just want to know who I look like, have medical and family history. Anything else(contact or relationship via mail/internet etc) would have to be carefully considered.

I have tried adoption search sites to no avail.

I know alot of people should remember this situation.

ANY INFO no matter how small, could be just what I need to finally put the most basic and natural question of who I look like to rest.

Answer 1

Cynthia,

I'm so sorry that your search is, so far, ongoing and that the adoption reunion sites have not been helpful.

From my own experience (I am reunited with both my natural parents) I would caution you about believing everything in the paperwork/report(s) you get from the state or any other adoption-industry source.

Here are some of the 'mistakes' in the information I received from the state:

The ages listed for my natural parents at the time of my birth were wrong.

My father's race was listed as "English, White American".  He is part Native American and NO part English.

My mother was listed as having 3 olders sisters.  She doesn't.

My father's father was listed as 'diabetic'.  He wasn't (He has passed away.)

There are many more that are less 'important' in terms of my search, than those above.  When I posted my search information, I always included that the information I had was according to the state I was adopted in the agency that handled my adoption.  I also said that I doubted the accuracy of my race -- as listed.  I was wrong, however, about what race I *thought* should have been included.  :-)

My mother found my posting on one of the sites and there was enough similar information (and I was born in a really small town, though I didn't know how small) that she recognized me as her daughter and contacted me.  Thank GOD!

I'm sorry I can't help on your specific search but I hope this information will be of some value to you.  Best of luck!!

p.s.  Have you tried ISRR and ALMA?  ISRR is the largest reunion registry in the U.S.  (Maybe the world...not sure.)

Answer 2

There is a search and support group for New York adoptees located at

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/nyadoptees...

As BOTZ suggested, sign up with the ISRR at http://isrr.net.

New York doesn't have a whole lot to offer in terms in information outside of the non-id, which you obviously have already.

They do have a reunion registry.  http://www.health.state.ny.us/vital_reco...